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Wait till you think about where your water's been.

What we find gross is mostly arbitrary and emotional. It’s loosely based on the perception of filth but most people who find something gross will continue to find that thing gross even if they know it’s clean. If someone feels like snakes are gross, they watch you take a snake and scrub it clean with soap and water (don’t actually do this obviously) and you try to hand them the scrubbed snake, most people would continue to call it gross. Furthermore, if you ask most people why they find something gross, they won’t be able to give you a real answer. (Food seems to be an exception but we mean something entirely different and much more specific when calling food gross unless we are saying that the food is somehow foul or unclean)

In most cases, when someone calls something gross, they are doing so as a reaction to a feeling it gives them. Whatever they say after that tends to be some form of post-hoc justification to legitimize that feeling.

Insertable sex toys and nothing else I can think of

I mean... how far down the rabbit hole are we going with 'once part of a living being?' Leather/wool/down?

Heck I don't even eat food that was part of animals

Ethics are the big line for me. The human remains market is pretty infamous for having dubiously sourced parts - people who did not consent to having their body bought and sold.

The exhibit Body Worlds, which travels to different museums, is an example of this. Some of the bodies are likely executed prisoners, who did not consent to have their bodies displayed in this way. The US has a horrible history of treating indigenous peoples corpses with disrespect. Two of the children who died in the MOVE bombing ended up in a universities collection without the knowledge or consent of their relatives.

I would be willing to have a skeleton or preserved organs as teaching materials, if I knew the individual involved gave their consent for that use. If I ever can afford a hysterectomy I would love to preserve my uterus for that purpose. I’d love to be an articulated skeleton in a science classroom after I’m done here on earth.

The necklace made of human ears my grandpa brought back from Vietnam is totally disgusting because they're all really shriveled up so they look like little kids' ears now.

But he also made one from human teeth, and that's less disturbing because maybe he just got them from a dentist's office in Saigon, you know? I never asked him while he was still alive.

If it’s generally socially acceptable, and I’ve gotten used to it, I’ll usually be ok with it. Otherwise, I’ll probably be grossed out by it. I know that’s dumb, but at least I’m being honest.

Depends on how liquidy it is.

Skin and organs are no-no

Dried skeleton, maybe.

If its "artificial life forms" like a non-carbon based robot, I'd happily gouge its "eyes" (cameras) and put then in a necklace.

If I look at an object and I'm reminded that it comes from a dead human or creature i probably wont keep it.

An old jacket is ok because i just see a cool jacked but a tiger skin rug would always remind me of a dead tiger.

If I ever were to lose a limb like a finger (and if it couldn't be reattached) I would like to keep it like preserved in an alcohol jar or just the bone part as a good terrible conversation piece

I've discussed with family members how it would be awesome to have jewelery made from each others bones. My sister said she'd like to have my dad's skeleton, prepped like for an anatomy class and he was up for it, but it seemed very complicated (and possibly just not allowed) and unsurprisingly expensive.

I don't think we're particularly morbid or gothy, just not grossed out by stuff like that. And I think having a smooth bone ring is a nicer way to remember someone you cared about than an ugly urn full of ashes.

I think human parts are a hard no for me, but I'm general good with anything, though usually much less so if the product isn't being produced incidentally.

This means cow leather is generally a okay, but crocodile is something I'll shy away from.

If it still looks like it did when it was alive: Shrimp with tails on, whole fish, that sort of thing is too far.

Also: you might like Caitlin Doughty/Ask A Mortician's videos and/or books. A lot of discussion about different cultures' approaches to death and how people's attitudes have evolved over time.

I've been pondering this myself. We had to have one of my cats (the one in my profile pic) put down last month, and we got a fur clipping, as well as her ashes. I'd like a piece of memorial jewelry or glass and I'm finding I'm OK with stuff that includes the fur, but not OK with cremation jewelry/cremation glass, and I don't really know how to articulate why. I think part of it is that fur and hair are shed throughout a lifetime anyway, but dividing up someone's bones or ashes almost feels like commodification to me.

(To be clear: I'm not judging other people who do this with their loved ones' remains, be they human or animal; this is just, like, my opinion, man.)

I got a cool looking salt shaker that looks like a crow and is made of buffalo horn. I'm fine with it sitting on my shelf but don't see myself using it for its intended purpose on my dining table.

If it's human

None? Owning a mummy would be dope, although the storage and care required wouldn't be.

was once part of a living being

When you drink a glass of water, about a hundred molecules of that water come from the pee of Isaac Newton from the specific day the apple fell on his head. Generally, every single atom surrounding us has been part of some living being or other thousands of times. Only drink pristine water harvested from interstellar comets!

Imagine a sentient tree looking around your home at the table, the chairs, the cabinets, the books...

I think it's more about presentation for me. For instance I have a turtle skull covered in snake skin on my desk. It make it look like a sick dragon head. So like a slab of human meat would be disgusting just sitting there. However if it was old skin preserved using a specific technique and presented in an artful way then I'd be down with it

I bought a pretty shell necklace in Samoa, and then asked the seller what shells it was made from.

He said... "Dolphin's teeth."

When I reeled back in horror, he chuckled and said, "Yum yum."

I have various bits of jewellery made from beef bone, I happily wear leather, but there was something intimate about teeth that made it gross, plus eating dolphins, argh.