I did well in school until I started college. The freedom kicked my ass. Only took my 15 years for a BS.
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Similar here. I finished at 34 and only then because I studied a field I intensely enjoyed. I can only imagine how different things might be if I had been diagnosed in my teens instead of my forties.
Ok that’s just weirdly Deja vu. I was almost 34 when I finished mine. The only reason I was able to finish mine is because I worked for the university and the classes were free.
Oh shit, I worked for the university too! I didn't get any free classes though because it was work study.
Potential? I just want money to live in this fucking world
Wasn't this just everyone's normal experience growing up? Or do I need to do an ADHD test or something?
I thought the same thing, so I took the test and yes ADD for me (though I was never hyperactive)
An inability to keep to routines means an inability to learn new trades. There is so much I want to do but can't because I can never learn how.
It's why I'm a software engineer. It wasn't easy to get into it. I don't just "learn" once I get bored. I had to learn on the job. But it's something that presents different challenges every day and once a job has exhausted its learning potential, I move to the next one with a different tech stack so it's interesting again.
Those 6 accursed words: "if you would only apply yourself."
Na, it's just one "should"
- "You are so smart, you should be a xxxxx"
- "you should find this easy, why didn't you pass"
- "you got 97%, you should concentrate on what you got wrong"
- "you should work harder, you could be great"
I see this differently: Whenever I enter a new environment everyone immediately sees my potential and gives me better deals (not money, I'm trying to be as abstract as possible).
In other words, I scam everyone because people really care about projected potential. They give me stuff because of my potential which will never come.
Girls, internships, etc.
So no, the teacher didn't see your potential. You scammed them with your adhd coping mechanisms.
TIL I'm a natural scammer
It honestly shocks me given the number of people who have these exact same experiences that we cant do a better job of recognizing and supporting people.
You could put my photo and name in that and leave the text exactly the same and it would mirror my experience growing up.
I don't have ADHD (at least I don't really think I do) but it's very relatable to me too.
As in most things I'm sure ADHD exacerbates this, but I think it's also just part of life in a modern era.
I only have so much brain power to spend in a given day. I'm sure everyone is the same, neuro divergent or normative. Some tasks are burn through more brain power than others.
I have lots of ideas about things I ought to do, but ultimately I just don't have the bandwidth.
It honestly shocks me given the number of people who have these exact same experiences that we cant do a better job of recognizing and supporting people.
I think its only a recent idea that people learn in different ways. Making a single curriculum is hard enough, making bespoke ones for each person tailored to their strengths and weaknesses requires far more resources than most educational systems have.
It's not about changing the curriculum, while it would be awesome it's not always possible. Instead I would have found someone identifying kids with ADHD and just explaining that they know I was doing 110%, but my brain just doesn't let me learn in the same way sometimes. A focus on "it's the system, NOT a your fault (try harder) issue".
If not for programming, I would have ended up a hobo without real qualifications but well versed in science fiction.
Same. I’d be working dead end jobs if I didn’t get lucky and land a job at the Genius Bar at Apple which then let me up skill as a programmer. Don’t work for Apple now but they saved my life man.
What type of programing are you able to do consistently?
Computer, mostly.
(Not OP) Dabble in everything and create dozens of unfinished projects, which fits well into most corporate software strategies.
This last part sent me. That's so true it hurts.
People shit on PMs, but it's genuinely useful to have someone coordinate breaking down a huge project into manageable chunks and keep on people to make sure they get their chunks done.
I guess a lot of shit on PMs happens because not every PM is actually doing their job. Asking ‘what's the status’ every morning is surprisingly not enough
This. My best achievement were done when there was another person able to articulate goals and constraints in a way I could internalize.
Hell I have hundreds of unfinished projects. I'm a pro at it
Only hundreds?
Yup. At least I had the benefit of not really caring. I passed with Bs and Cs. Nothing particularly interested me. But if I find something I actually want to do? I will skip meals accidentally because brain is going brrrr and will not stop.
Spotted the fellow combined-type sufferer
Not sure that constitutes AuDHD.. I'm inattentive ADHD with a tendency to hyperfocas on things that I'm really interested in. It's worse if I've taken my meds too because then I'm locked in, hunter is suppressed.. I literally don't need food when I'm working on something I love.
Combined as in both types of ADHD symptoms. Both Adhd-hyperactive and Adhd-inattentive, or full Adhd.
He is not trying to say that it's also Autism or AuDhd.
Ahh thanks for that clarification. That makes more sense. I suppose I'm combined type too. Was likely more evident when I was younger. These days my "hyperactivity" presents as hyperfocus whereas I would climb the walls as a kid.
That is exactly my experience. But my mom wouldn't get me tested because she didn't want me to be "drugged up and not the real me"
i was tested, put on ritalin for a very long time thru my elementary grade school. didn't make a lick of difference with the teachers. it was always the same song and dance "oh he's just difficult so we dont bother" no bitch, i was bored and uninterested.
I’ve always been multi-faceted, but it’s trapped in a brain that fucking squanders it. I was diagnosed with ADHD in the 90s. Programmer for decades; sang in a band; been drawing off and on since I was a kid; have an insane ear for following drum arrangements and knowing what’s coming; ice and inline skater since I was a child (grew up playing hockey).
No energy or drive to put all of it to use. Terrible student and traditional teaching environments have never worked for me. I was always labeled “lazy” or hit with the same “he has potential, but […]” bullshit. Programming and computer science stuff were the only things that really panned out for me. Managed to make a career out of it, despite having garbage grades, so that’s been the upside. But I always have those daydreams that crop up where I wonder what could’ve been if I had stuck more heavily with hockey, singing, or art.
Regardless, I’m in my 40s now and I like who I’ve become at the end of it all, I still skate, and I’ve been getting back into art again. You have to keep reminding yourself that everyone’s measure for success is different and you have to refrain from attaching that success to some bullshit capitalist-driven metric that ultimately means fuck all.
I usually was lucky enough to get hyper fixated just before exams due to my anxiety. So I was a straight-A student. But it was always a struggle against myself. And it kept getting harder as I got into college, and then university. I also constantly got the "not reaching my potential" line even though I was very good academically, since I sucked in the regular classes and only shined in exams. Basically, they thought that I could do even better if I could perform that well without even trying. (I was trying my best, or least as much as my monkey brain would allow me.)
I remember when I joined high school, people thought I was cheating in exams because I barely did homework (it wasn't graded, so didn't feel any pressure to do it well) and was frequently distracted. But soon enough they realized that it's just the way I was.
Even now, I need to give myself forced deadlines by promising my colleagues/superiors so that the anxiety of embarrassment forces me to actually do my work. I want to get a diagnosis, but you guys know how hard it is for us to get motivated for that.
Hold the fuck up. This is what everyone experiences, right? It’s not a sign of ADHD, is it? What the hell?! JFC social media is how I learned I have total aphantasia and I’m not ready for this.
Aphabtasia isn't real.
INB4 any comments whatsoever.
I've read before that there is a lot of overlap with aphantasia and ADHD. I also have aphantasia, and am pretty sure I have ADHD as well, so there's another +1 for that theory, I suppose.
It’s becoming one of those things where more and more people have some bits and pieces from the spectrum. I’m convinced that a big contributor is how stupidly fast-paced our society is, and the amount of information we are expected to constantly be processing.
Not sure what prompted it, but I have you tagged as my favorite fediverson for brilliance, kindness, and humor.
Wow, I’m honored! I know we’ve definitely crossed paths before because I remember the username. Always makes me laugh. I love how tight-knit the Lemmy community is.
Ninja edit: how do you assign tags to a user? I’m on the Mlem app but can’t find that feature.
"He has so much potential, if only he would apply himself" - overhearing a teacher talking to my parents. Spoiler alert adults, I physically couldn't.
I lapsed on getting my Adderall refilled for about a month (yay self-fulfilling prophecy kinda). Finally got back on it this week and single-handedly resolved an issue on one of our big tools here at work that has been plaguing us for a couple years now.
I'm gonna ride that high for a while.