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Murdered by Words

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submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by TurboLag@lemmings.world to c/murderedbywords@feddit.uk
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[–] Brett@feddit.org 43 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Makes me sad to live in a world where it is more effective for the owner to just send lawyers after the plattform to delete the review instead of posting that honest answer. Probably none of the potential customers will read that and only see a (guessed)4,1 rating(because of that single 2 star review when the place only got 7 reviews in total) and think to themself thats too big of a gamble.

Its a guess. Maybe the place is actually terrible. Who knows. :D

[–] Klear@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Hell, the whole thing might be just rage bait.

[–] teft@piefed.social 38 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What was the reviewers plan for when they walked out of the shop? I assume they had a coat since they knew it was cold out. If they did have said coat why didn't they just put it on inside the shop if they were cold? I swear there are so many people who complain just to complain.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 3 days ago

"Excuse me, but I dined inside so that I wouldn't need a coat, jackass."

-Reviewer, probably

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I feel like some people are really, unhealthily, conflict avoidant. Like the customer may have been told they could speak up, but were too irrationally scared to do so. That sucks. Sometimes it's hard to work on ourselves.

Kind of reminds me of the "ask vs guess culture" thing.

Leaving a negative review is uncalled for, regardless

[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What do you mean conflict avoidant? They literally started a conflict. Are you reading the same thing as everyone else?

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I meant they were cold, and they didn't want to talk to the owner. Like, they were afraid of the conflict from saying "can you close the door?" so they didn't. They just seethed about it until they went big aggro at the end.

Like, my mom is like that. Something will be bothering her but she won't do anything about it, until she blows up. Like we'll want dinner plans, talk about places, pick a place, she'll drive us all there, sit down and eat, and then halfway through she'll blow up with "I didn't even want to go here!". We'll be like "why didn't you say something earlier??". She didn't want to ... I don't know... have people argue with her? Feel judged? So she avoided that conflict (even as minor as saying she doesn't want Thai food), but was still mad about it, and then eventually it comes out. Probably in a far more emotionally loaded way than it would have if she'd spoken up earlier. I guess in her head saying "I don't want Thai" would be a big deal, when in reality it would've just been "oh, okay. How about XYZ?"

It's not conflict avoidant like "avoid all conflict at all times". It's just .. unhealthy.

This maybe isn't that, but it's the kind of behavior I thought of.

[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Fair, makes sense!

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If they were conflict avoidant, they wouldn't have complained in such an aggressive manner

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 5 points 3 days ago

Yeah, you're probably right. I kind of pictured them sitting there seething and unable to speak up until the very end, but my hypothesis is probably just wrong in this example.

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 17 points 3 days ago (2 children)
[–] anytimesoon@piefed.social 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

This is why I left feddit.uk 😔

[–] Tweak@feddit.uk 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

It's got little to do with feddit.uk and more to do with IP. You can't even access lemmings.world directly with a UK IP. Even if you try to view this post on any other instance it will still be blocked.

It's a really annoying block, too. Because the instance is hosted outside of the UK's jurisdiction, and thus cannot be held to British law. It would only be an issue for the instance if they accept payments using payment processors, who are actually pushing all of this. It's MasterCard and VISA looking to fuck with people and make more money - one of the easiest accepted ways of verifying age is via a card transaction, which they get a cut of. Just like how they encourage tipping culture on their payment machines, now that everyone uses cards instead of cash - their transaction percentage charge includes the tip.

But yeah, I don't think the instance takes payments, so it's bullshit to block UK IPs in this way. It's a hollow social justice gesture that does harm instead of good.

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 4 points 2 days ago

The issue is my client is in the uk, as it's drawing the image from op's instance

[–] JizzmasterD@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago

It was a particularly sultry one too 🥵

[–] don@lemmy.ca 11 points 3 days ago

Good to see a review bomber being appropriately sniped. Fuck shitty people.

[–] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

A long time ago my hispanic coworker was serving customers and I went through and emptied all the trashes, I stopped briefly to point at the button to print a chicken meal deal tag and then went on my way. I later got informed that the customer complained that I ignored them and they were very upset...?

[–] Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 3 days ago

Rookie mistake. You forgot the cardinal rule: if you’re visible to someone in a food service setting, whether you are interacting with them or not, you have to loudly and performatively introduce yourself in a clearly false southern accent, tell them an anecdote about your childhood, physically caress them at least once, and call them “darlin’” while performing an act of emotional labor.