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[–] Almonds@mander.xyz 40 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I feel like some of these get very skewed depending on the person's upbringing and personal traumas. I know an autistic person who is deeply dedicated/committed to their partner(who has a severe mental illness), at the expense of the wellbeing of their children. That's not ethical or moral, but this person made vows to God and their partner, not to their children

Also "honest" is mentioned twice, and that's definitely one of those things that gets skewed too lol

[–] faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 10 points 2 days ago

Yeah, my partner is autistic/adhd, and he struggles so bad with being late all the time.

[–] thoughtfuldragon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wish I was always on time

[–] noctivius@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago

I wish I be on time instead of arriving hours before 😂

[–] muhyb@programming.dev 21 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Always on time

More like "always half an hour early"

[–] howrar@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 days ago

Right? Struggling so much to be on time that overcompensating is the only coping mechanism that works.

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 days ago

Screams in Audhd

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

This hit me like a ton of bricks

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A question about this. Can I ask what's meant by "sensitive to others' feelings?"

[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

This is gonna be very subjective:

To me, there's two ways in which autistic people handle empathy:

  • you don't really get why people are doing things, and how they feel when they are behaving a certain way so you just ignore it. Even if you might have a hunch, you'd rather they say it, therefore you don't interact with behavior.

  • you somewhat get why people are doing things but you have a hard time always being correct about the feelings or reasons. You basically don't react to all the indications you see, but when you see them, you assume you missed a few indicators, so you start being hypersensitive to these things and they trigger loads more empathy than they do for non-autistic people.

I assume this somewhat describes the latter, although I'm sure not everyone sees it the way I do.

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago
[–] FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 days ago

Ethical is very subjective and strongly dependent on what those ethics are whether it is a positive or not.