I am still pissed that my lack of blind obedience was seen as the worst symptoms of my disability as a child
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See also: following the rules too precisely.
Funny, because as a little kid who wanted to do everything "the right way" and who got in trouble when I didn't "follow directions," I also got in trouble for helping kids that didn't know/pay attention to given directions. Apparently that's called "bossy" and it's wrong?
Truth is: there is no right choice. It depends entirely on the authority figure around at the moment and whatever preconceived notions they have about you. Hell yeah I have a problem with authority. If they followed rules as consistently as they expect those in their charge to, I'd actually have respect for them.
Yeah, some of my favourite books revolve around the crazy fantastical idea of having people in charge who are intelligent, competent, and have working morals.
Reading is an escape from reality.
This, except I legitimately do have a problem with authority. Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me.
Except of you explain your reasoning and I see where you're coming from. Motherfucker.
Thats "being convincing" and not "authority" tho no?
The reason could relate to their authority.
I will listen to the authority of my mechanic, he is chill and knows more about cars than me. I refuse to engage him on politics or economics, I have melted my brain on Smith and Marx I do not have the patience to deal with his 3rd grade economic trite. Free the markets kill the corporations make everything a co-op or individually ran.
Bakunin's famous authority of the bootmaker where he differentiates between demanded coercion and earned deference.
One of my favorite GIFs:
you have a problem with authority
(that's good)
(that’s good)
Until it gets in the way of your money earning activities
No. No, still good. Just inconvenient to capitulation.
Oh no not good for them. Good for the cause tho
Get a job with no hierarchies, they're out there!
Show me a paid job that you think doesn't feature hierarchy and I'll point out it's hierarchical aspects that you've yet to notice.
Unpaid jobs, like parenting or being a good friend, plenty of those are actually hierarchy-free.
Telling me to do something i was already gonna do though, that just makes it a million times harder.
Autism gang 😎😎😎
That's an autism thing too?!? Man y'all get all the relatable common sense traits, so jealous
One of the big things I personally notice in myself and other autistic people is this mentality. We seem to mostly miss the "programming" that makes others subconsciously conform to social rules.
My personal hypothesis is that without that programming we get the opportunity to actually think about the rules that we are forced to abide by, because we have to actively learn them instead of subconsciously feeling them. And that leads to the questions like "why can only one gender wear X, there's no logical reason for that", "why can't I wear shorts to work when it's warm outside, that makes no sense", "why should I respect the elders when they treat me like that", etc. It's not like neurotypical people cannot question these things, but I feel like we're just coming from a different position. I constantly feel like these kinds of social "rules* are forced upon me and not based on any logic, thus I remain skeptical of them. But I've also learned that while they're nonsensical, it's often way easier to pretend to abide by them and go with the flow. Constantly fighting every little nonsensical rule will not make you popular, so you got to pick your battles
Ya know, if you have all of the relatable common sense traits that autistic people have you might be....
I mean, i can also miss cues.
Which may lead to me charitably assuming that what youre asking isnt unsane and/or evil, and asking for more explanation.
Authority is given and therefore earned. If you're in a position of authority but don't continuously earn it, I will not respect you or your decisions.
Use of the word 'respect' especially if it's stated as an obligation, is the biggest tell that i will never, ever, ever respect a 'person'
I hate when they just repeat/reexplain the instructions and treat me like an idiot.
I didn't ask "how" I asked "why".
I understand how in the day to day people rely on shortcuts to understand people. But even when I explicitly ask to interpret the literal words I am saying they still jump around the question.
It gives me the urge to write the question down and give it to them like an essay question, maybe then they'll see how much of a no sequitur their response is.
Thry won't
What gets me are product warning labels that say "Do not do " but then do not say why. Is it because the product will break, or because it will cause the formation of a black hole, and the destruction of reality as we know it? Or maybe it just plain doesn't work. Who knows, they're not telling you. Tell me why instead of assuming that the reason is obvious to everyone. "Do not submerge in water" makes sense to most people on the side of a hair-dryer, but not everyone understands why electricity and liquids generally don't mix well. We need education, not blind obedience to rules which may or may not be completely arbitrary.
I used to be like that but often once you do it you understand why much easier than by having it explained. If not you can still ask. I made things more difficult for myself by thinking I can or have to control my entire life.
Bienvenu en France, baiseur de mère!