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The original was posted on /r/exmormon by /u/Responsible-Survivor on 2025-08-02 18:33:40+00:00.
Being neurodivergent and taking everything literally, and dealing with the conditioning of the church as a woman...
I took all the advice given to me about dating, very literally. And this was mostly from old conservative men, as well as from the Young Women's leaders who instilled very antiquated patriarchal ideals as well.
It did not go well, as I'm sure you can imagine.
My first date at 16 was a group date for a high school dance. Some old crusty church leader had told us teenage girls "don't get out of the car until the guy opens the door for you." And so I sat there in my poofy dress, while everyone else got out of the car... and my date, who I barely knew because I never talked to guys, was flustered as he had to circle back and open the door for me.
I didn't enjoy it one bit and felt horribly awkward, but I thought I had to. It was ridiculous, and thank god I never did that again ๐
Thank gods I'm out, but I'm definitely still doing work to undo all of the programming. New things pop up all the time that make me realize how much of me was programmed by TSCC