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[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 42 minutes ago

Dont understand the gendered lighting? Man everything from the late 80s to the 2010s had gendered lighting, color and separation.

Does no one remember Toys-R-Us literally being divided in gender? You can still tell its lasting inpact if you ever walk near the kids section a walmart, as any girls section is immediately nothing but pink.

Even to this day people still heavily insist on gender stereotypes in the LGBTQ community to the point where androgyny is back as a counter culture movement. As if it was just the oppressed heterosexual christians that love this shit. Eveyone does.
Now give me my RGB bathtub so i can make it green and bubbly like a cauldron.

[–] hakunawazo@lemmy.world 2 points 53 minutes ago

Looks like a dishwasher tab.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 6 points 2 hours ago

Some people see heterosexual people living their best lives and choose to be bothered by it. Ironic

[–] Phoenix3875@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago

There's a thing called Yuanyang hotpot:

Yuanyang hotpot

[–] caboose2006@lemmy.world 14 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Only straight people that have never had the "omg al I gay?" Moment and REALLY thought about it.

Like you're playing spin the bottle in hs with 5 girls and 1 other guy and you're like "if you land on a girl you gotta kiss the girl" and the girls are like "fine, but if it lands on a guy you gotta kiss the guy" and you're like the odds are ever in my favour "okay" you and your friend agree. Then you're the first to spin the bottle and of course it lands on your friend but you ain't no bitch so you man up and kiss your best guy friend right on the mouth to keep the game going so you can kiss some hot ladies. Kissing your friend seems a purely mechanical experience.

But you just kissed a guy. "Omg. Am I gay?" You think. So you go through it in your head.

After the party you give your friend a ride home, only to make out in your car. That seems meh but you continue the thought experiment.

Then you picture his parents aren't home, he invites you in. You go in and go to pound town on each other. Again, it's not great, but hey, you got off, that ain't bad.

But then, in your mind, comes the afterglow.

You picture laying in bed, holding eachother. Telling secrets, caressing, laughing.

Fucking bleh.

You continue the game. You kiss some girls. You enjoy the fuck out of it.

And that my friends is how you are straight but not insecure about it. I'm 42 now, this actually happened to me at 16. I've been secure in my sexuality ever since. I'm convinced these insecure, homophobic men, at least, have never entertained the "omg am I gay?" Moment, for fear of the answer.

Live your truth, whatever that is.

[–] piranhaconda@mander.xyz 2 points 49 minutes ago* (last edited 45 minutes ago)

Who's more straight, a dude that's tried it before and decided it ain't for him, or a dude who won't even entertain the idea? I vote that real world experience wins out.

[–] CannedYeet@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago

Is this what they call "soaking"?

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 25 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

"It is gay to bathe with a woman?"

"Not if she is in pink water and you're in blue water."

[–] D_C@sh.itjust.works 6 points 8 hours ago

What if she splashes some pink in to my blue? Will that turn me in to "The Gay"? WILL IT!??!!??!?

Fuck it, I'm off to lube up my arse just in case. Does, errr, any dudes wanna help? In a total manly fashion, of course.

[–] M0oP0o@mander.xyz 10 points 14 hours ago

Wow, the rare dual cuck.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 92 points 22 hours ago

Coming home early from work one morning and finding my wife in the Blue Water tub.

Tearing up, fleeing the room, moving back in with my parents, and filing for divorce.

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 27 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

That last line is really bothering me for some reason.

I get the joke, but I've always been sexually and romantically attracted to women, and I've never been sexually or romantically attracted to men.

Like it's so cut and dry it's why I didn't have a second thought that other people know they aren't straight or know they aren't born in the right body.

To me, It just seems so obvious that if someone needs reassurance they're straight, they ain't straight.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 18 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

If they need assurance for themselves that they are straight, then you are right, they are likely not. However much of the most extreme gender and sexual expression (primarily masculinity and heterosexuality, but not exclusively) is cultural and performative, and certain groups expect you to uphold that performance at all times, and reject anything that would be counter to it.

That is the idea behind toxic masculinity, for example. It isn't that masculinity is bad. It is the that the cultural expectations and barriers and hyper-fixation on masculinity are bad.

The same applies to sexual orientation sometimes. There can be cultural expectation and conformity that comes with your declared orientation, and failing to conform can have consequences in some groups. So it's not necessarily about appearing straight to hide your secret gayness, but may in fact be about appearing straight becuase doing anything outside of those expectations may have social consequences. For example, a heterosexual man giving another man a friendly hug or platonically holding his hand can cause people to question his role in their social circle. It doesn't have to be about his actual orientation at all.

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 18 points 19 hours ago

Hope they know they're bathing in a Trans pride color tub.

[–] 58008@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago

This is to prevent the man from contracting transosity from the woman's farts.

[–] Treczoks@lemmy.world 49 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I could imagine such a setup for my wife and me. While I'm usually the more heat-resistant person, she showers and baths at temperatures that I consider too hot. So she could have her 42°C bath, while I take my 35°C bath at the same time.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 24 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Same with us. Husband says "jump in the shower with me" but he keeps it at a miserable tepid barely warm temperature. I get chilled. I don't ask him to get in my shower because he thinks the heat will melt his skin off.

[–] MIDItheKID@lemmy.world 7 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

This is an incredibly common thing, and I'm wondering if there's some kind of science behind it. If I got in the shower with my wife it wouldnt be like "wow this is pretty hot water" it's literally like "OW OW OW OW" and I have to jump out. I'm fairly certain being exposed to that for more than a few seconds would result in low grade burns.

[–] Pencilnoob@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

My hypothesis is it's a combination of body fat distribution, blood flow rate, and surface area to mass ratios.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 14 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

A pink light shining on a penis will cause it to permanently lose all function and eventually fall off.

So free bottom surgery. Where can I get this?

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 6 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

somebody needs to alert 196 about this discovery immediately

edit: nevermind, wasn't paying attention to what sub i'm in

[–] Hagdos@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

It is known

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

They've both got blue lighting. She's just on the rag.

[–] kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 18 hours ago

Thanks I didn't need to read that

[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 36 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

If you don't change the gender fluid often enough, you're going to turn gay!

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Can confirm. I accidentally went over 3000 miles without a change. Now I’m pansexual.

[–] Ofiuco@piefed.ca 5 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

What if someone is already gay?

[–] kibiz0r@midwest.social 6 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 3 points 15 hours ago

Makes sense, same as a Prius, which is also gay

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 26 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

I kind of like this. My current bathtub is too small for my partner and I to bathe together, plus his legs are way too long to fit comfortably. This tub lets you fill up only one side if one person is bathing, or both if both. Saves water.

Also lets you have different bubble bath and other products, or pee in the bath, without contaminating the other person's water.

I don't need RGB in the bath, though, unless it's telling me something useful like the temperature. I had a shower wand that was blue when the water was too cold. That was awesome.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 3 points 10 hours ago

I think the ideal would be this, but with a removable divider. You could have your separate baths, or combine it into one big bath. I don't know how feasible this would be to make, but I'm sure it's possible.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 31 points 22 hours ago (6 children)

or pee in the bath, without contaminating the other person's water.

What a relief that would be. I love to take baths in my own piss but my partner hates it???

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[–] zarathustra0@lemmy.world 18 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I don't know, this looks pretty gay to me.

[–] potoo22@programming.dev 20 points 20 hours ago

This keeps femininity from contaminating our masculinity. When my homies visit, we all squeeze into the blue tub together because we are all men!

[–] JimVanDeventer@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

He’s even wearing swim shorts.

[–] Vandals_handle@lemmy.world 1 points 33 minutes ago
[–] Dekkia@this.doesnotcut.it 11 points 23 hours ago

That's how gender affirming stuff for cis people looks like.

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 11 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I watched the Aurora Teagarden Mystery movies and the boyfriend stays over and sleeps on the couch.

You can tell they’re made by Hallmark.

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 4 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Sorry I'm uninformed, but what do you refer to? Is it old fashioned that a boy stays over at a girls house and sleeps on the couch?

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 9 points 23 hours ago

It’s just a very old fashioned “our characters are morally perfect Christians” approach

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[–] sheridan@lemmy.world 7 points 22 hours ago

This is a Hays Code compliant bathtub.

[–] altphoto@lemmy.today 1 points 15 hours ago

After all, the woman's thing I'd pink and the men's thing is blue...or purple, depends.

[–] TheFogan@programming.dev 4 points 21 hours ago

really not sure of why it would be a thing for christian couples anyway. Nudity alone is a factor if they are not married. So, only benefit is if either they want different temperatures or apparently colors in the water.

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