I really should have learned to drive in high school when I had the chance. No money->no car->no job loops have bit me quite a lot as an adult.
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I thought about buying about a thousand bitcoins when it would have costed me a hundred bucks. Never did though.
I regret surviving into the 21st century.
Being born in the USA
Waiting so long to cut off a toxic parent. Not spending more time with a good parent. Not going to therapy sooner.
Not fighting harder to buy a house when it was cheap. My SO hated the idea soo much. Now still living in same place I cant do jack to. And 10 years we won't have a home thanks to my grandma's stupidity and pride.
Sometimes I wonder if i chose the wrong person. I love my SO but our life goals are as different as can be. Took 15 years to convince to my side.
Yeah I wanted to buy a house 5 years ago, but my wife (fiance at the time) was too nervous. Home prices had risen 40% by the time she was comfortable with it.
In 2018 I was offered a job managing a retreat center on the shores of Lake Superior. The job would have been to keep the place looking nice and, very occasionally, cultivate a restful space for people who needed it.
I went and got a PhD instead. Not a huge mistake, but I’d probably have been happier with the retreat center.
I don’t know, society might be better off with you doing science!
Probably, but my PhD is in philosophy.
Probably,
Checks out.
Lol something I'm not going to put on the internet
Probably a good idea :P
Put off transitioning waay too long
Trusting that my guidance counselors would do their job. Not switching high schools because they didn't look very different.
My school refused to let me in more difficult classes I thought I needed for college even though I requested them, was recommended them by my grade school and even tested into them. I only found out recently that I test advance proficient, but they lied to me about when I was a student.
All because when I was in kindergarten, someone decided I had a reading disability.
Letting my emotions ruin my career
I'm curious if you want to tell the story.
I have taken long breaks in my education (a pretty good one) due to being lazy depressed (being depressed but not sad per se, having executive dysfunction).
My friends have moved on from college and I am stuck. It always feels that my problems were not as important or as big to waste years of my life.
I have accepted the fact that it is my life and it is not a race but sometimes I do feel that it would have been much simpler and better if I had just completed my education while being miserable because I was miserable anyways.
I am kind of rambling because I don't think such a deep and vast topic can be explained in a comment.
I spent 7 years on my 4 year degree for vaguely similar reasons. I didn’t take breaks. I pushed through and cracked and failed and started over in a new major and a new school. That was nearly a decade ago and I’m not really happy with where it lead me. I wish I had taken the time off. If I could go back now with my current knowledge of how my brain works differently, I would be so much more successful. I’m also just rambling at this point.
I guess what I’m trying to say is be kind to yourself over the choices to have made. Not only can you rarely ever take them back, the grass is rarely ever actually greener on the other side.
You're right, but thank you for sharing anyway!
your mom ,😥
Our shame unites us.
So say we all
I let too many people tell me how to live my life and tried too hard for their approval for too long.
Going to college for a business degree where I'm now working a position that doesn't require it and still years away from paying my loan off.
I'm right here with you. Went into Psychology but had no idea that I was screwing myself over on loans - I couldn't afford to continue into a Masters which is pretty much required to work in the field.
About 15 years out and I'm still dealing with the debt for a degree I can't use and can't afford to continue.
Not standing up to the so-called friend who stabbed me in the back.
Accidentally letting my sidekick find out that I poisoned brock
not fucking , not having a gf , not configuring my system , not having real friends
Yes.