Not being an asshole. Like you don't need to be nice, you don't need to bend over backwards or go out of your way, just simply don't be a jerk to people. It's easy and free.
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I couldn't agree more! This includes online
idk if i could say this is surprisingly easy or even really easy at all. this has actually been one of the most difficult things i've worked towards accomplishing during my life
at least, this has been really difficult for me online; i think it's much easier in person to not be a dick lol
but if it's hard for me online, maybe it's hard for folks in-person, too
Weight gain. You think you're not eating more then you put pants on and BAM don't do up
I'd always thought that making friends and talking to strangers was super hard. My whole life, I've struggled along with just a couple friends...
Recently I've been reshaping my life and have been trying to make new friends... I'm still working on the execution, but just talking to people and finding common ground and being social has become SO much easier than I always thought it was. I think the trick was to just stop caring what people thought about me and being proud to be my genuine self.
There's a group I've been meeting up with regularly and we're going to the zoo this Sunday, and bowling next Sunday, on top of our usually scheduled Thursday afternoon general social meetups :)
What helped reshape your life? Books, therapy, something else? Asking for a friend.:)
Well done, btw.
Sheer will completely of my own volition, and some revelations that were sort of always there, but I finally grasped what was going on. Basically it boils down to for the last 20 years, I've been using romantic partners as a constant crutch to satisfy my social needs. My most recent breakup a couple months back had me really reflect on the past, and I realized that right now I need real true social connections, and don't really need any romantic physical connection. I was in a situation I'd never really found myself in before (alone, basically, not looking to date), and I just started throwing myself at situations, meeting people, being super open and vulnerable, etc...
We ended up rescheduling the zoo, but we're still going eventually... I was super ready and down to go, but I guess everyone else was a little too eager when discussing it originally and didn't think about several things people already had on their calendars lol.
Cooking - You can pretty much learn by trial and error. Or watch some YouTube videos.
Growing summer squash. I bought one tiny plant and stuck it in the garden bed, then absolutely neglected it for weeks. And now I have more squash than I know what to do with!
Switching to FOSS
syncthing, my beloved
I have been experimenting with it recently. What is your use case?
I use it to backup my photos, music from my phone to my PC. Send music from the PC to the phone, nothing too crazy. What about you?
Is syncthing a backup solution? I think it is advised to not rely on it for backups because one deletion deletes it from everywhere.
I don't know what I can use it for. I have set it up on iPhone and desktop. I am wondering if I should use it for RPi with Tailscale. Still, the question remains on what to use it for?
There's a setting for that but I've just got all one way folders right now, so in my music I'll have a send and receive sub dir just in case. Same with the photos but I'm not really sending them to the phone.
Then it is fine, I guess.
iOS does not support syncing in background with Syncthing (the only app I know of, and it is in TestFlight). I don't know if I would be able to make any use of it.
OP’s mum (someone had to say it)
Making someone's day. All it really takes is a small unexpected gesture. You pick up a little extra something for a coworker at the coffee shop. You let someone with small kids move ahead of you in the line.
Heck, even asking a favour of someone can be all it takes sometimes. If they're feeling ignored or in a funk for whatever reason, it brings them back and can be a little self esteem boost knowing they helped you out.
Me. I'm surprisingly easy.
Easy like Sunday mornin
100 sit-ups, 100 push-ups, 100 squats, and a 6.2-mile (10-km) run, performed every day.
I think you're meant to be on linked in
What's so funny is I remember an old animation about Naruto fans saying they believed they could run at the speed of light if they did 500 pushups, 500 pull ups, 1000 jumping jacks, and 1000 leg kicks. I think it pre dated one punch man. But the joke was so similar. And I can't find that video anymore. It was an ancient flash video.
Haha, it's a one punch man reference.
I really don't think it was. I remember this from middle school which was pre 2006 for me, or it have have been very very early high school. One Punch Man apparently debuted as a webcomic in 2009 according to Wikipedia.
Edit: I think you may have misread me, I know the thing you mentioned is a One Punch Man reference. I mentioned it in my comment, you may not have seen it. I didn't capitalize it so it doesn't stick out very well.
Ah yes, I meant what I said was a reference. Thought maybe you were misremembering it.
I never watched Naruto.
Yeah it wasn't on the show, only this specific video lol
With no A/C of course.