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Is your mom an English sex therapist? Do you give sex advice in an abandoned bathroom stall?
It's not out of the realm of possibility that it's normal for your family, but for most families that wouldn't be normal.
If you're family is open about being sex positive, if talking with your parents about masturbating wasn't weird as a teenager, then I don't think it's that weird of a college send off gift.
I'm gonna go with somewhere around super duper.
In on itself it's not directly red flags I'd say. It depends on the family, it depends on a lot of things. Maybe they're just oen about sexuality and don't see it as a big deal. As long as there is no abuse involved, I think it should be fine.
It's unusual for sure and I'm guessing that if the birthday boy opened up this present in public this would have caused a lot of uncomfortable laughter, sure.
It depends on the actual intention but it potentially falls under what is referred to as covert incest, especially if there's a pattern. It's not something people talk about a lot but it's more common than you'd think and it can definitely have a lasting impact.
How would this be incest? I know most people don't talk about sex. But some people are more open and talk about this stuff. In your opinion is talking about sex with your children incest?
I mean I think the op it would be weird but my family just shoved everything down and hides it.
Covert incest is a fixed term and that's a common reaction to hearing it for the first time.
In your opinion is talking about sex with your children incest?
Usually not but if it's done with hidden motives it sure can be covert incest - which again is a different thing from what the name might lead one to believe.
It's an unusual gift and would make most people incredibly awkward but there's nothing sinister in the act itself, absent of the context. People gift things like guns and alcohol and I would argue those do more harm.
You know... Technically speaking there is probably much more incest in Utah than any other state.
No, it’s ok, it’s just soaking, which a lot of them are convinced doesn’t count
/s, in case it needs to be said
Isn't it jump humping now. Soaking with a friend jumping on the bed so your not the one doing it. Man the hurdles these people go through.
Same energy as grandad buying his grandson a sex doll. Make sure to not buy the Gazorpazorps Gwendolyn model.
Very. When I want to get off, I don’t want my Mum involved.
Not even with broken arms?
Your poor mother with broken arms most certainly should'nt be involved.
Why must I keep being reminded of this :(
If anyone isn't familiar: they're referencing a rather touching story, definitely Google it.
::: spoiler Plsdont :::
Touching is the right verb.
Lol don't
I didn't know what a fleshlight was and assumed OP misspelt Flashlight, assuming OP expected something bigger for their 18th birthday. Needless to say, the comments were quite confusing.
its extremely wierd, and getting close to oedipus/fruedian territory. maybe as a gag gift, if the son is doing something like porn, but even that is sitll wierd.
It depends - are their arms broken?
I... Uh... Might have been raised in a culture that is quite different from yours, but I'd say very abnormal.
It's entirely possible for a mother & son to have a loving, honest, and very Open relationship. They can discuss anything and be supportive.
Giving that kind of gift could fit right in with the dynamic. Or, a family could enjoy giving "gag gifts" and it could be one of those.
It does not have to be a weird or bizarre gift.
Yeah, context is very important. It goes from fucking weird, to funny depending.
I'm going against the majority.
It can be made into a weird situation, but the act itself is pragmatic and likely comes from a caring place.
Every parent with a son knows that theyre buffing the helmet any chance they get as teenagers. They're gonna make messes, ruin washcloths, use all the hand lotion, etc. Any parent who thinks their son ain't beating their meat like it owes them money is delusional. Long before your kids get to masturbation age, the parent(s) should have talked about it. If you wait until they get to the age of shame, that is going to be an uncomfortable and unproductive conversation. If you have had an ongoing and open dialog about sex, masturbation, their bodies and other topics, talking about some of the details later will not be a taboo topic. Thusly if the parent offers a masturbatory device to the child, it won't be weird unless someone wants to make it that way. If the conversations have not taken place and you still want to get your kid a sex toy, you could just order something online and leave it for them without saying anything. You could also get them a gift card to the sex store so they can get something for themself. While I presume most teenage boys dont want to share their private acts of self - gratification with their parent, there is no reason why there cannot be practical honesty about them. Get your kid a sex toy, leave it in his room, and unless he wants to talk about it, assume that he will get many hours of satisfaction from it.
I fully agree, this is a pragmatic gift if you kept your discourse about sexual topics open with your child from the beginning. I would've gone for a gift card so they can choose themselves in privacy, but it's fine either way.
For prudish families who learnt of this gift this would be gossip material for the next year tho. So many puritans in the US, the neighbors might be the biggest issue, so i would've kept it on the down low.
Giving their son a sex toy, whatever, not common, but it can help have a normal conversation about sex and realistic expectations.
For his birthday, kind of weird. I don't think it should so formal a thing. Just so it and have the conversation about safe sex and how porn isn't like real sex.
For his 18th, uhhhh little late to the party.
Okay but also giving a kid a sex toy before their 18th birthday is how you end up on a list and have to tell your neighbors about it.
This is rather high on the cringe list.
Only if it's a present the size of a car in the garage and you invite everyone over to witness him unwrap it.
On a scale of 1 to 10?
A solid 13.
"Abnormal" is pretty clear - this isn't something I'd expect to see from one mom in a thousand - maybe ten thousand.
But so what? I doubt it's an unhealthy act or situation, so fuck those other 9,999 moms! Actually, don't - you have a fleshlight.
Don't he'll end up asking you to clean it
between a scale of "giving your kid condoms and the talk on prom night" and "mother measures my penis every weekend at bath time” this is a solid "my mother bought me a fleshlight so I remember her every time I crank it".
Jesus dude...I'm sorry. and if you're into that shit...congratulations?
I remember watching this show dark side of the ring, and this one wrestler buff bagwell would get his mom to shave his asshole for him. Some people are weird
I could have gone my whole life not knowing this. now that I know....I must tell others, and progress the dark shame of humanity.
Pretty weird.
That’s old enough they can buy their own.
Is it like a really passive aggressive sign mom doesn’t like their gf?
Ignoring context, it would be unusual, but not inherently worrying. There's plenty of mothers that help guide their daughters to an age appropriate sex toy, and some that will do the same for their sons. Rarer, there are fathers that will do so, but men have to worry more about external opinions about such. A mothers buys a dildo for their kid, the default assumption is that it's weird, but not bad. A father does it, and the default assumption is that he's over the line.
That being said parents should be the default source is advice about such things, because a bunch of young idiots (as opposed to old idiots) trying to advise each other about things they don't have much experience with is a recipe for hospital visits.
In terms of general purpose guidance, and funding/ordering sex toys, there's nothing wrong with a parent helping their kids in that way, assuming care is taken. There's even an argument to be made that verbal instructions on safe use are even to be encouraged, and helpful hints aren't exactly out of line (for real, a lot of young people masturbate in unhealthy ways that just a few sentences could prevent much trouble down the line).
In context, with the info you provided in comments, the mother in question is not being a good parent in this case, so it fits the word abnormal in the sense that it is unhealthy.
It isn't an inherently problematic act in itself but it is very weird and I'd be shocked if it has ever happened without being connected to some very creepy shit.