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No, because it would be exorbitantly expensive.

Nobody can afford that shit anymore. That was a 80/90s adult thing. That or a bar @.@ our parents really got the last of it.

Third spaces were much more common before the 2000s. Coffee shops where you could hang out with friends were actually a thing in the 90s. Open mic nights and karaoke. I remember we had a common ritual at the book store I worked where everyone who closed would meet up at TGI Fridays for late night drinks, TGIF doesn’t even exist any more. I used to meet up with a bunch of friends at Dennys every Thursday night, and then it fucking closed.

You guys have friends?

I don't have friends, but the people at the coffee drive-through have started recognizing me. Can't wait to get apartments together with them soon.

When I was younger, certainly before kids, yeah, we had a couple different restaurants or bars where we'd meet up fairly regularly, for either a couple beers or some food, or both, or more.

This thread highlights the reality of Lemmy, and how it's representative of only a sliver of the population. The number of people saying "Friends?" is depressing.

"Third places" in this day and age, with this carbrained transportation and zoning policy?

When I was much younger, my friends and I would meet up at the same coffee shop/bistro every day and hang out on the back patio smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, and chatting for hours. That place is no longer in business, and everything is WAY too expensive now... but years later, some of that same group of people meet up damn near every day at a private beach shack for beers, grilling, and swimming.

The Pub

These are all set in walkable cities, it makes sense to have a favorite cafe near where you all live.

No. But in college, we had a pub we would go to for dinner on Wednesday every week with the same group of friends, with the occasional tag along. Does that count?

Does anyone have friends that see more than 2-3 times a year?

We don't meet up in person too often, but my friends from college have a discord server that pretty much always at least 2 or 3 people chilling in. Sometimes we play games together, other times everyone is doing their own thing but it's nice to have people to talk to when gaming. Also most of us live too far from each other to meet up all the time. I guess this is like the modern day, post covid, equivalent of everyone meeting up in a bar or cafe after work

You guys have friends?

it's called "my place" or "their place", and we make coffee for a cent on the dollar

I think Luke's was the only diner in Star's Hollow.

If I'm hanging out with more than 1 person at a time we better be playing D&D. Otherwise I'm probably just there out of obligation.

For those of who worked at certain restaurants, you might have experienced a dedicated group of 75+ friends and yes they do meet at the same place everyday. In fact when we were closed they'd camp outside in the parking lot in lawn chairs.

The exact same group of geriatrics... every single day. Honestly it was sad to see one missing and not come back because you knew why.

I cannot even financially support that. A beer costs between 5 and 8 euros. Having a few beers and some snacks for 2 hours is a bill of 60 euros. Imagine doing that for several hours every day. I can't spend 100-150 euros every day.

You guys can afford to go to a cafe on a regular basis?

When I was a teen our spot was Dunkin’ Donuts after school - we befriended another group - of retirees. As an adult it became a bar.

Well, to be fair for the Gilmore Girls that was literally one of two places they could go... And Lorelai ended up boinking the owner... So ya.

Do friendships like that actually exist? Did TV set me up for disapointment?

Used to with friends who are no longer with us.

The folks I would do this with, hang out at a spot frequently, have either moved away or died.
It's been very hard to get to that point again, however Cannabis communities, particularly in Amsterdam, have really been a help at socialising and making friends. I've made more friends there since last year than I have for several years prior.
Folks are always up for a coffee and a toke!

Yes, but we call it a bar. Same thing, just less tea or coffee

Of course. How else would we develop the exposition other people will need to understand our narrative?

Yes, the place we hang out is called a "signal thread" and we share stupid memes with each other every day.

It's never too late to start. Become the sitcoms

I had when I was young. Good times.

In highschool, my classmates and I would hang out at the nearby McDonald's often enough we gave it an informal course code.

There are plenty of cafes now but it's too expensive now for me to hang out at them more than a couple times a month.

In high school in the '90s we were pretty close. It was a handful of places but not that many, basically anywhere we could get away with sitting for hours nursing a coffee or iced tea. If they had pinball, big bonus. Maybe not every day, but certainly many days in the week.