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I'm really looking forward coming back to this community tomorrow, with the knowledge that many deeply unpleasant people have been banned and will not be around anymore.

The moderators of this community do an exquisite job. Rules are enforced, but with kindness. All rule breaking is treated as an honest mistake, unless proven otherwise.

Even though this thread is filled with vitriol, there is no censorship. No comments were removed by moderators. Bans are not applied retroactively.

Thanks so much for the work you do for this community! Keep it up! ❤️❤️❤️

"I'm a hardcore racist and misogynist and I'm pissed I can't express these views at work anymore." - author.

Jesus christ. I saw a thread in some other community the other day about Women's Stuff and the men wah-wah-wahing like little babies about this sub were ridiculous. Same thing - in that thread some man was saying that when he replied to threads here he felt like he had to walk on eggshells.

You guys, all we want is one tiny corner of lemmy to ourselves. Somewhere we can talk about things that uniquely affect us -or- perhaps they affect men too but they affect us in a unique way due to our gender. And many men are cool with this concept and generally supportive (and a sincere thank you to those guys!) but a significant number are butthurt little babies about being unwanted here.

Those are the same butthurt little babies in the Fox News poll. If you can't keep it civil in the workplace I don't know what to tell you other than you're a low-quality human. Have some fucking empathy.

Edit: here's the post I was talking about.

I mean... Good? We nowadays have these things called "societal norms", which means everyone needs to think before they open their big stupid mouths.

You know what real pros do? They were already aware of this, and were already doing this.

If you have to be taught these lessons now, well, take it as a learning opportunity. Expand your horizons. Enhance your compassion.

"White men"(sexist and/or racist old dicksack) need to "walk on eggshells"(can no longer say racist and/or sexist thing in a corporate environment).

I hate that I remember how to speak Fox News.

White dude here, in the US, currently sitting at work. (Sorry to disobey the “women only community” request, but I hope this is constructive and maybe even reaches some angry guy lurking.)

And I’m walking on fuckin’ sunshine over here because I’m nice to people and I got myself out of the Conservatism Spectrum Disorder shit that I was born into.

It’s funny how things work…

Being white? Fine. I’ve never been attacked for it, even by people who have very much the opposite of white privilege.

Being a dude? Also working out well. I have a hell of a sex drive for a middle aged dad-bodder, and of course there are attractive people at work, yet I have managed to not stalk or grab or attack or cat call anybody. (the exception for some of those is my wife, in a good way)

There are a whole lot of bad men out there. Being a good one requires recognizing that. If you’re already resisting that concept then you’re already way off track because we’re talking about half of humanity.

And if you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, yeah maybe it’s some other toxic person’s fault, but make sure to take a long hard look at yourself too. That feeling of self-consciousness or embarrassment might be you starting to get it.

Only bigots are afraid to "speak freely" at work. I speak freely all the time, and at work, you just have to not be marginalising or belittling or degrading someone else while doing it.

Can't spew hate anymore without someone going 'that's not nice'. Political corectness gone mad.

You wouldn't be walking on eggshells if you didn't want to say shit that'd upset people

Walking on eggshells = not able to say dumb racist shit without getting called out.

Afraid to speak freely about what?

This reminds me of a former colleague. He'd always complain that he can't say anything at work anymore and humor is forbidden. Examples were: Our suppliers don't issue bikini model calenders anymore, even though that was some harmless fun! Also hanging up bikini model calenders is not allowed anymore! It was just some harmless fun. And back then female colleagues didn't complain when you told them to make coffee for you. They are so uncooperative and easily offended nowadays!

Every time I start to feel bad for these men, I remember every time I was either victimized or made to feel uncomfortable on purpose and I no longer feel bad about it. I think there is an aspect of me that is able to sympathize, but a bigger part is fucking bitter and wants to see them get a taste of their own medicine.

Shitting on men

No male comments

With all due respect, I do not believe this should be allowed, should it?

Terrible when men do this, no better when done by women

Why - did they hear people had eggshells they don't want walked on?

Ahh, so white men are finally developing some social awareness. That's excellent news, thank you for sharing, Fox.