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he asked me if I thought we were going to fuck. I didn’t know what to say and said maybe, and he said that he thought we would, and then I agreed with him
I mean, it seems pretty settled. Ask him out for drinks one on one, or just invite him to your place or wherever you plan to bone down.
Thanks! I guess maybe I’ll ask him out to drinks. I’ve been in my head like this wasn’t as clear cut of a situation as it is. I needed to hear this, thanks!!!
You gotta shoot your shot! It will probably be easier if you have an excuse besides hooking up to hang out. Drinks, watch a movie at your place, something like that. Try not to overthink it and good luck!
Thank you! I’ll give it a shot!
Life is short, and it sounds like you already have an understanding.
I would text with what I want to do, how, where, and when.
If his expectations are different, you can discuss and compromise.
It sounds to me like just going for it will work out fine.
When I'm nervous about something I want to do, I like to review if I've considered all the angles. It sounds to me like you've covered things pretty well.
Take the initiative and reach out. He will apreciate that if he is also interested.
"Wanna hang out at my place tonight? I have snacks and movies."
Give some forewarning so he has some time to hop in the shower and what not.
If he says yes, great. If he says "how about friday?" Great. If he says "nah", oh well.
From your description I can't tell if this is just about having sex and no more. Good luck though.
Thanks, I’ll try. And I’m not sure if it’s just sex or something more, but I’m good with either / any outcome.
Then let yourself go and enjoy!
I guess I'm also nervous if things go south, I'd still like to be friends, and hope this won't cause an issue. I think I should probably just shoot my shot anyway.