The idea of getting braces to be fashionable is just so bizarre to me, this has been a fascinating read.
I wish I had some advice for you.
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Weird to me too! OTOH I've seen young porn stars with braces, apparently that's a whole fetish thing. And we all know why, "Look how young I am!" Kinda the same I think, but also an indicator of wealth where she's from.
I don't think she realizes they look bad here in America. Makes her bottom lip pouch out, not a good look.
I'm over thinking this. I'll try to bring it up relaxing tonight.
Re: cost
The cost of fashion braces , especially if they are not being regularly adjusted, should be no/low cost. Most of the cost is in the initial installation and removal, and the monthly adjustment appointments. I seriously doubt she's going regularly.
FYI- discoloration of the enamel can happen as a result of braces due to inconsistent staining of enamel. The longer they are on, the worse it can be. It's possible that she doesn't want them removed for this reason.
Those braces haven't been touched since they were installed, purely cosmetic. Pair of diagonal pliers get the job done?
That would deal with the wire. The brackets glued to the teeth, no.
Jesus man, I was joking! Now I'm laughing picturing the scene, "Hold still dammit or it'll hurt worse!"
You've indicated your respect for your gf, so I didn't figure you'd actually do it. It would make for an interesting piece of dark comedy though.
Can't she change them for removable ones?
Do you both visit the dentist regularly? What does her dentist have to say on the subject?
Actually we don't. Never known her to go, I don't have insurance and we both have healthy teeth.
You have no business criticising someone else's dental habits if you don't at least go for regular check-ups yourself.
If you were to go, you could ask the dentist how common braces are in your age group, and mention you know someone in your age group who has worn braces for x amount of time, and ask if they would have any concerns about that practice.