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[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 143 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

A love for women is the biggest risk factor for violent crime.

[–] neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works 47 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Alternatively, the qualities that make you lust after women tend to lead to more violent crimes.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 46 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Alternatively; crime is hot AF and the only way I've ever gotten laid.

Edit: doing sexy crimes that got people to momemtarily ignore the red flags. Not sex crimes. Not sex crimes at the time; we'll see what counts by winter.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 18 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This comment is fucking hilarious. Just imagining you writing this and then realising the implications is peak hahahaha

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[–] frustrated_phagocytosis@fedia.io 112 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Straight women probably commit way more crime but get away with it more frequently. I know I do. Also where are the bi criminals? Are there none? Did we just solve crime?

Psst, we’re using our invisibility to leave no trace while committing crime

[–] TheRealKuni@lemmy.world 43 points 5 days ago (1 children)

That’s silly, imagining that people exist on a spectrum. Don’t you know everything in life is black and white, either or, binary?

The Kinsey scale only contains 0 and 6 for a reason. If there were any numbers between 0 and 6, people might think the world was complex and nuanced or something.

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[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 30 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Bi people are too emotionally fulfilled to want to crime

[–] _AutumnMoon_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm supposed to be emotionally fulfilled?

[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah didn't you install the latest updates yet? Since, like, patch 14.7.3, you should have a permanent sense of mild satisfaction.

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Wtf I'm on 16.8.2W and I never got that feature.

Is it a hidden toggle somewhere?

Ah yeah, you'll need to have a low-key buzz on for it to apply, and social anxiety kinda nerfs it

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[–] joyjoy@lemmy.zip 84 points 5 days ago (7 children)

"Be gay, do crime" is only relevant to women.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 46 points 5 days ago (1 children)

No we're just better at it.

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 30 points 5 days ago (1 children)
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[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Who's to say gay men don't do more white collar crime?

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[–] Electric_Druid@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

I support the message, but sure would like more info on the y axis: what exactly are 4 points of violent delinquency? How does that compare to 6, or 1?

[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 19 points 4 days ago (3 children)

A school friend of mine was shot in the back of the head by her lesbian lover a year after we graduated high school.

[–] Madagaskar_sky@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Jesus fucking Christ

Fatally?

[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)
[–] LiveLM@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 days ago

Sorry for your loss.

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[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 44 points 4 days ago (13 children)

I'd definitely believe the top two. My oldest sister seems to only date dudes that end up beating her, but my other sister has been put in the hospital by every woman she's dated. I know it's slim pickings, and rural Midwest lesbians have a lot to be mad about, but stop taking it out on each other! There are more deserving targets.

Jesus, I'd take a vow of celibacy at that point.

[–] Sombyr@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 days ago

As a bi trans woman, I've definitely noticed similar trends between straight guys and lesbian women. And for anybody wondering, in my experience, lesbian trans women are equally as abusive as cis lesbian women, and straight trans men equally as predatory as cis straight men.

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[–] sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 61 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

I wonder if this is a case of men not reporting sexual violence as commonly often due to societal expectations. At least to a point that is.

Edit: Also, many police won't follow through with male reports of violence particularly sexual violence.

[–] TheFinn@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I was about to say the same thing. Women will report violence from women, men are going to be less inclined to.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago

And i imagine a lot of gay men have the attitude that if they report intimate partner violence it will come back to hurt them in one way or another.

I know as a trans woman if I were to report violence from a cis woman I'd likely be reframed as the perpetrator and if I were to report violence from a trans woman it would be framed as "trans woman commits violent crime" and used to hurt me.

In some contexts there's no doubt you have a point, but liberal western cities I suspect that has no more impact than, say, the tendency of women to underreport domestic and sexual violence. Anyway I would imagine that a bigger factor is criminal perpetrators underreporting their own gayness

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 54 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Interesting because there's a very old gay stereotype that they're extremely violent. These days, it's usually that gay men are effeminate and passive, and I think a lot of people don't even realize this stereotype existed.

Baron Harkonnen and Scar (The Lion King) are examples.

[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 28 points 5 days ago

Jafar. i don't think these characters often represent violent crime though. more often just deviousness

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 20 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Captain Hook, evil dandy trope.

The Baron Harkonnen example is interesting because the author was admittedly homophobic when he wrote the character, but later regretted the choice after making amends with his gay son.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 19 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

Examples of that older stereotype, you mean?

I'd never have guessed Scar were gay.

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 5 days ago (13 children)

Disney never comes right out and says these things about their cartoons. Ursula is based directly on the drag artist Divine, but you won't catch a Disney executive admitting that.

But yes, Scar is basically the gay uncle.

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[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 43 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)
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These are rookie numbers. Come on gays, we can do better.

I hate the datamancer of this chart- if you have 'heterosexual men/women' the other bars should be labelled 'homosexual men/women'

And listing them alphabetically instead of by grouping or delinquency is also mildly irksome.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 30 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Commit or get convicted of (hint: its impossible to measure crimes commited)

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[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 23 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I guess bisexuals do literally 0 crime.

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[–] Phen@lemmy.eco.br 17 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Is there any average differences in hormones between gay and straight people of the same gender?

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[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 17 points 5 days ago (2 children)

come on brothers. be gay do crime!

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 17 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This morning I drove to the post office going 38 mph when the speed limit is 35. Last week I checked my phone at the social security office when the guard was distracted. Next week, who knows what depravity I may commit.

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