Had a client sexually harass me on a recorded work call (he knew it was recorded because I told him when the call started), and I reported it to my boss. My boss sent the recording to the client's boss and the guy was fired the next day. I terminated his access to everything and it felt so good. I'd never been spoken to in such a disgusting way before that. Gave me the ICK
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I worry with the "trust your gut" thing. When you're wary be wary, but preexisting prejudices can and do influence this and do need to be examined and challenged. Noping out of a situation is always ok, and if force to do so is needed to have your demands to step away respected that's what it takes, but a gut feeling is not evidence of danger, but a suspicion of it and that distinction is crucial.
Trusting your gut as evidence of danger sometimes ends in tragedy as this incident shows. This woman was visiting El Paso, saw road signs for Mexico (El Paso and Ciudad Juarez share a metropolitan area), thought she was being kidnapped, and killed her driver.
We currently live in an era of high fear and social distrust alongside low crime rates.
And as expected men pipe up with their all-important view in a community where they're explicitly not welcome.
Fucking HELL is Lemmy toxic!
Two more came in to comment on the comment that pointed out men commenting aren't allowed.
Are they really that stupid? Or are they just that fucking arrogant?
Isn't that true for any gender?
Not in my experience. The amount of 'wow, I was just...' responses I've had from men when I am out and femme (I'm AMAB non-binary) truly stunned me. I was dropping off stuff at a thrift store, and as I walked through the door an older man held it open for me, then grabbed my lower back to 'guide' me forward. I spun around into a boxing guard, and the guy looked horrified at me (as did most people in the store) and then he said something that made it all make sense to me, in a truly awful way.
"Oh I'm sorry lad, I thought you were a girl!"
yikes, you ran into a creep
I also coincidentally have run into creeps about one hundred times as often when I'm mistaken for a woman, so I would argue no, it's not true for 'any gender.'
It sounds like this is a lot more applicable for women. But that does not invalidate mens rights. Even if they don't need to excersize them nearly as much
Yeah, but women (and feminine presenting people in general) are the ones who are told they are being rude and overreacting when they try to voice this.
I do think women being rude for no reason is wildly misunderepresented just because a man really has no recourse. Last time I was in Costa Rica(my country of birth) I had been socializing and getting to know people and danced with a couple strangers, got some Instagrams, etc. it was a dance club in a very touristy area so it had a mix of locals and foreigners. I said hi to a girl that was in a corner by herself and she screamed "get the fuck away from me." I had never been spoken to like that by a stranger and I wanted to tell her that's not an appropriate response when you're visiting a country that isn't yours(she was clearly Asian-American). If she had spoken like that to someone who's mentally unstable or is one of those "scary locals" she's probably afraid of she might end up in a dumpster somewhere. I just walked away and tried to forget about it, didn't even respond to her, but I still think about it from time to time. A lot of the time, your perceptions will influence reality and if you live your life with the assumption that guys are creeps well you might end up being rude to someone who has nothing to lose.
No. What happened here is that she was not comfortable with your presence and you simply do not know why. You have no idea why she was in a corner by herself. You have no idea why she told you to get the fuck away.
I had never been spoken to like that by a stranger and I wanted to tell her that’s not an appropriate response when you’re visiting a country that isn’t yours(she was clearly Asian-American).
What authority do you think you have that should allow you to tell some stranger in a club what an appropriate way to voice their desire for you to go away is?
If she had spoken like that to someone who’s mentally unstable or is one of those “scary locals” she’s probably afraid of she might end up in a dumpster somewhere.
This is a horrifying way to express this sentiment. Like, "she might end up in a dumpster somewhere" honestly sounds like you've thought about it. If this is how you come across in general then I can understand why some people may not feel comfortable.
Feminists will do everything except take accountability lol. Imagine if the roles were reversed and a girl said hi to me and my response was "get the fuck away from me." You would say that I shouldn't be somewhere that I'm not comfortable in.
The whole "you have thought about it" shit is weak too. This is what your feminist afraid of everything bubble causes, for innocent people to get caught in the wake of you not being able to be an adult and simply express your concerns like a grown up. https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/crime/community-grieves-slain-uber-driver-tahirou-diallo/287-b807d567-0333-4f61-821f-1e2da8c8e18f
The biggest comfort is that you're in the minority despite your holier than thou attitude. Keep living in fear of shadows, the world isn't as ugly as you think it is except for people like you.
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No, I wouldn't say you shouldn't be somewhere that you're not comfortable in.
The rest of your anti-feminist shadow boxing exercise just serves to illustrate my point.
"Feminists will do anything except take accountability" TIL you're a feminist.
Also this is a women only community, kindly go elsewhere to be a Nice Guy.
Honestly, women don't owe anyone to be polite at all, let them do as they want.
Of course they fucking do. Everyone should be polite by default. If someone misbehaves, they lose the right to receive politeness.
Why? You don't know their life, why do you get to decide how they should act and to whom?
You are ofc welcome to choose that approach for yourself, as mostly do I. But telling anyone what to do, especially on the flimsy base of gender, seems callous.
I don't know and don't care about their life, and it is not gender specific. All humans that are part of a society should be polite by default. What I am saying is that I don't see the reason that women should be exempt.