Yeah a lot of these ring true for sure, 2&3 especially. I also hate surprises, and the quote about surprise visits from friends feeling like being ambushed in your safe place is spot on.
I guess 5 is also a fairly prevalent contradiction, and one spot where I've noticed it comes up a lot is for things like finishing a show/book/movie/game that I'm not really enjoying. The autism part of me needs to see it through to get closure, but the ADHD part is bored and wants something new. What usually happens is a stalemate where I just get anxiety about the whole situation and neither finish it nor do something new.