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[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 196 points 1 month ago (4 children)

i was once with my kids at the park.

a mom my kids were playing with started talking to me.

she began complaining about tentacle hentai...

had to act like I never heard of that.

not sure if that counts as a normal conversation.

[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 143 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The fact that a stranger/acquaintance thought that was an appropriate conversation in a park with kids around says a lot more about her than it does about you. I'd feel more comfortable around someone who secretly likes it than someone who openly talks about hating it.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 58 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'd say she got undiagnosed autism or something. but then again, I have diagnosed autism and know not to talk about tentacle hentai to strangers

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 15 points 1 month ago (2 children)

not sure about you. but i can go from 1,2,3 all the way until I get bored

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm not sure about you, either, because I can go from 1,2,3 all the way until I get boned.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don’t think tentacles HAVE bones…

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (4 children)

To be fair, neither do human penises.

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[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 53 points 1 month ago (5 children)

What's there to complain about? Did she some how run out of tentacle hentai?

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 37 points 1 month ago (3 children)

how would you feel to learn about tentacle porn, and also that there are no fuckeable tentacle monsters in real life?

[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 30 points 1 month ago (4 children)
[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

is it?

mine is mostly imaginary

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 6 points 1 month ago

At least just "mostly"!

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[–] Alwaysnownevernotme@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Can we agree that it is strange.

because those tentacles aren't doing anything, they are only playing with their beaks.

and getting eaten out by a sharp beak hurts my clitoris, and I am a cis dude.

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[–] FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 1 month ago

Them gotdang’ol tentacles I tell you hwat.

[–] Landless2029@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Wow now that sounds like a bad ^dragon^ dream

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[–] supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz 79 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

gosh I would never choose to have that kink!

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[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 28 points 1 month ago

we don't choose the kinks we have, the kinks we have choose us

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 77 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Oh no, that sounds terrible! Now let’s both take the BDSM Test to make sure we know what other kinks to steer clear of.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Now why did you have to go and post this? I guess I need to figure out what "submissive" and "rope bunny" mean now.

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 1 month ago

A good time, typically.

[–] bytesonbike@discuss.online 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I took the test for fun and randomly picked answers.

Rope bunny? Brat?

(Principal Skinner meme)

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 26 points 1 month ago

I took the test for fun and randomly picked answers.

If you say so.

[–] shininghero@pawb.social 53 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Unless you're in a group of furries. Then it's either a poker face, or suggestive exclamations of OwO and UwU.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 month ago

me when grls r brought up in vanilla conversation:

hm? grlzsies? nevr heard of em -

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 35 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Coward move. Stand up for yourself

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 52 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Sometimes it's good to let your freak flag fly, other times you have to pretend you didn't see that look on a coworkers face when someone said "Good Girl"

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago

Yeah, sometimes you gotta pretend you don't get mad leather vibes at the office Halloween party. Gotta leave your worldly awareness at the door. Just let Jenny in accounting be Cat Woman, vanilla style.

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'd be looking askance at whoever it was that said "good girl", TBH. I can't imagine saying that in a workplace to anyone who isn't a literal child.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It was actually said to a therapy dog that was there for the day, but I saw a reaction, then she saw me see the reaction, and we shared that look of "I know you know that I know you know" and we both didn't want to have further complications so it was never brought up.

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[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

gosh i wish i had hair like that!

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Ngl I typically just avoid or info dump, depending on the company. If they’re direct though I ain’t gonna lie. You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Though there have been times I have advice but that’s more “the kids are asking age appropriate questions.”

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago (7 children)

You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Ohh so that's what that phrase came from.

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[–] gazby@lemmy.zip 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago (3 children)

my friend made me take the bdsm test and it returned 97% vanilla. I don't have this problem lol

Also something I've learned recently is that I'm like super un-sex-driven. Like I have a drive but it's like 10 mins before bed a couple of times a week. I cannot fathom how people could cheat on their partner because they're horny, I just don't really get it.

You know the trend of putting 10 people's phones open with TikTok together and if you get a thirst trap you're out? I did like 20+ and this is the closest I got

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

As someone with a high sex drive, I still don’t understand cheating. If your horny and your partner isn’t around, or in the mood, just have a wank and go on with your day. It ain’t that difficult.

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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (4 children)

My kink has never come up in vanilla conversation.

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