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[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 34 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"we" and other first-person-plurals

[–] boatswain 15 points 10 months ago

We're right there with y'all.

[–] Jerb322@lemmy.world 22 points 10 months ago

Depends on if I'm mad at myself...

"I should go get some food."

"You fucking idiot."

[–] thesohoriots@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Typically “you” if it’s in my head, but if said out loud it’s “I”

[–] toy_boat_toy_boat@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

i use "ye", too, but only at renaissance festivals

[–] kubica@fedia.io 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Both. And often also by name for some sarcasms.

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 1 points 10 months ago

Yeah this l me too. it depends on the context

[–] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I tend to just leave them out all together. Don’t know why though, maybe it’s faster?
It feels a bit like when you read a book fast and skip over entire words.

“Need to do some cleaning.”
“How could this be done faster?”
Or a common one:
“Hungry” :)

[–] JakenVeina@lemm.ee 11 points 10 months ago

Interesting that several people are reporting using "you" for negative sentiments, because I use "I" for those as well. E.G. "Well, I'm a fucking idiot."

[–] darkmarx@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago

Depends which part of myself I'm talking to. If it's just a general conversation, it's "we." If it's more of a direct conversation to a part of my mind, it's "you." If I'm talking about myself to a third-party, such as this response, it's "I."

[–] Flamekebab@piefed.social 8 points 10 months ago

It took me a moment to realise this was about inner monologues.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I, you, we and thou.

As in:

"What am I doing?!"

"You're getting older, not younger."

"Let's not do this again."

"Thou have lost the little bit of reasoning you had left."

And it scares people.

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Gloomy@mander.xyz 3 points 10 months ago

Thou hast mich

[–] callyral@pawb.social 6 points 10 months ago

The passive voice is often used.

[–] KingOogaBooga@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

We. You are a combination of all the entities living on or in you. We are Us.

[–] RadicalEagle@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Both, but it also depends on if I’m winning the argument or they are.

[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Distancing yourself from yourself, like an external narrator

[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

More the equivalent of a parent using your full name before telling you to do something... But it is your own mental monologue.

[–] icerunner_origin@startrek.website 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] will_a113@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

“One” for me as well. No need to be so informal just because it’s all in my head.

[–] Devmapall@lemm.ee 5 points 10 months ago

If it's my internal monologue it's usually "I"

If I'm writing about myself (like a journal) then also "I"

If it's a note to remind myself of something then "you"

I have written letters to myself in the future and those are always "you"

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

I am an "I".

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 4 points 10 months ago

"I" or "we" in English, German is mostly reserved for deep thoughts where I rarely need to address myself but if I do I think I use "ich" ("I") as well. "You" wouldn't feel right for me personally.

[–] chickenf622@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago

I think I mix them interchangeably. Much to the chagrin of my English teachers.

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

In my languages we don't usually use pronouns because verbs conjugations make them redundant, but I use both first and second person.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

I use I unless I'm insulting or denigrating myself, then it's usually you

[–] josefo@leminal.space 4 points 10 months ago

There are multiple voices, one says "I" while the others respond with "you" if they are disagreeing, or "we" if they agree.

  • I should shave
  • Yes we should
  • No, you shouldn't. You look stupid.
  • I think that's right, I'm not shaving.
[–] squinky@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

“We”. Not sure why. I guess it’s me and the person I’m talking to (who is also me)

[–] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 4 points 10 months ago
[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Both, with a slight preference for "I".

[–] uhmbah@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 months ago

Yes. I says to you.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

"We"

"Do we think that leftover scree was important? Do we remember where it came from?"

"We need to get some more sleep."

Sometimes it's "You" when referring to the lazy, scared, or angry one.

"You're overreacting. You'll be fine. You're upset over nothing."

Never I.

[–] Brewchin@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Both. "I am an idiot." "You should know better."

[–] Corno@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago

It varies between people, but for me it alternates!

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Always I. Didn't know other people didn't always use I apparently.

[–] taxiiiii@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

I get "you" and "I". I'm still astonished that some people seem to use "we".

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 10 months ago

We and us-- "let's go do blah, we ought to blah"

[–] PillowTalk420@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Depends which side of myself is currently speaking.

[–] embed_me@programming.dev 2 points 10 months ago
[–] fantine9@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

You. And also the pet name that my late husband used for me, if I'm feeling especially pitiful or otherwise in need of encouragement.