Autism

It’s not hard to get a test you just need to grow yourself a money tree.

Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.

An extrovert with social anxiety.

It's a way of describing that a person is willing to join social interaction, but also enjoys alone time

Ive always referred to myself as a social introvert. Ill go to social events, have fun, but boy is it exhausting and id rather spend time home alone doing nothing

There are a bunch of different definitions people use for introversion/extroversion. "Extroverted introvert" means you're extroverted by one definition and introverted by a different one.

Someone who is too introspective for their own good

Huh, funnily enough I thought this was about the opposite. I barely have a social battery, so I don't meet up with people much, and only for a limited time. But when I do, I'm the life of the party.

That's not autism. That's social anxiety.

Yes, how you socialize and how much it drains you are affected by whether or not you’re autistic and/or ADHD.

People who are naturally outgoing but also autistic/ADHD have the same drive to go out and interact with people, but due to differences in how they act/perceive the world wind up much more drained from the experience (either from sensory overstimulation or anxiety from people being unpredictable). This often leads to seeking out socialization less, even though they are just as desperate for it as anyone else who is naturally more extroverted.

And instead of typing up a paragraph every time they want to talk about it, they say introverted extrovert.

My cousin is certified extrovert. She basically always „needs“ someone to talk to on family gatherings. I think she’s fine being alone, but if there’s a person she will talk to them.

If there’s someone telling a story and she’s not too invested she will open a parallel conversation.

What is an extroverted introvert?

It is a made up meme to explain the fact that almost no one is really extroverted or introverted. meyers-briggs, which is unscientific and was just made up by some dumbass who said "I think humans be like this", says all people are either extroverts or introverts. But in reality, one's level of extroversion or introversion depends heavily on environmental factors such as overall energy level or level of comfort with a particular person/group. To the extent that extroversion is a measurable, stable personality trait at all, when it is measured it fits a bell curve across the population - ie, the vast majority of people land smack dab in the middle of extroverted/introverted.

So if you say you are an extroverted introvert, you're just saying you're a normal fucking person. It comes from people accepting Meyers-Briggs as hard fact (it isn't), and then trying to fit this square peg into the round hole of their actual lived experience.