Sky this line of thought is super concerning and none of this is sound logic.
this post was submitted on 12 Sep 2023
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I just feel helpless and unable to do anything to remotely improve this
That sounds like it sucks.
You sound full of sorrow. You're also full of shit.
No one should detransition "for the sake of their community".
Hormones are magic, and can do amazing things.
You probably look fine.
looks it up Yeah, you look fine.
Dysphoria is a bitch though, huh?
Chill, everything will be alright.
You got this.
I have been on hrt since February 2022 and still look awful
How long did puberty take the first time?
Also you look fine and I don't care if you believe me or not.
Third if we were friends and someone who wasn't you was talking about my friend the way you're talking about yourself I would beat them up.
Not sure if I'm saying "don't beat yourself up" or "do beat yourself up" but either way why are you putting up with that kind of shittalk from yourself you wouldn't accept from a stranger?
I'm guessing you have not seen my photos I put here before
I did. You look fine.
Yeah. If you put a gun to my head and told me to guess whether you're cis or trans, I'd have no clue. Chill.
Maybe T was really agressive, I know I started male puberty at like 12 or 13
I challenge you to take the comments you are making towards yourself and apply them to other women ("cis" or otherwise).
my friend is almost 6 foot... would you tell her she will never be attractive?
I have heavier friends... would you tell them theyll never find love??
because these are statements you're making with this post and while I'm sure you are (hopefully) only applying them to yourself, theyre still hurtful to read.
we have told you time and time again to be kinder to yourself and have offered so much reassurance but it's getting to a point where I genuinely feel like we need a ban on "do I pass" posts because they do nothing but cultivate unhealthy standards
I've felt hopeless before too. It's hard to see the positives in ourselves when the negatives seem so overwhelming. I'm really sorry to hear how much you're struggling Sky. I understand feeling like you waited too long and that the damage from T is too much. Mental health issues are really hard to deal with and regret can hurt for a really long time. I think it would be really helpful if you could try and confide how you're struggling with someone you know personally and feel comfortable talking to. You shouldn't have to deal with these emotions on your own. I also just want to remind you that we do have links to crisis services in our sidebar, if you feel like you may need them. I hope that the rest of your day feels a little better.
I can't really ask for help no one has the spoon to help me.
Also I can't change science I'm genetically unluckly, puberty hit at 12 and hit me like a brick