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This hits home really hard. I've watched it a couple of times now.
I do have a couple of quibbles. Speaking in mocking tones about homeless women at 15:33. ("There's more homeless men than homeless women" definitely doesn't make it ok to downplay the suffering of homeless women.) Also, I think he could have done a slightly better job talking about the "sex strike" at 7:15. (The incels probably have a propensity to mischaracterize all situations where a woman declines to have sex as "witholding sex to emotionally manipulate." I definitely don't think that's what TheBurgerkrieg was saying nor that he thinks that way, but it could have been made clearer.)
Though the argument might could be made that it's just scary as a member of a privileged class talking about privilege and I'm projecting in a way that is making me hypercritical.
But, more importantly, I wish more people talked about this issue and more generally that systemic bigoted hierarchies control and harm the privileged too. (While also being way too careful to be clear that they're not trying to compare the suffering of the privileged to the suffering of the underprivileged. ;) )