Online/mobile dating is truly a lose-lose for everyone. Gay, straight, poly, short-term, long-term, it doesn't matter these simply are not designed to help people find matches. They are designed to keep you on the app. I'm not totally on the anti-tech wave but I'm certainly against how these apps are designed. I think in a more just and equitable world they would be a boon for people seeking dates, but the profit incentive for these apps totally warps that.
this post was submitted on 30 Aug 2023
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I'm all for online dating to help people find others but you are correct.
Each app is designed to increase engagement and the best way to increase engagement and usage is to restrict the effectiveness of the apps stated goal.
Weird example but even Ashley Madison had more bot accounts than real ones designed in house to be as human as possible to keep paying guys on the hook.
Edit: but also it's because a lot of men are sick, stalkery, creepy weirdos on dating apps and the amount of men who referred to me as a "fuckable piece of meat" or some other disgusting comment like I'm going to get horny over a man who objectifies me before he even knows I love that shit?
Nah dude you sound like a creepy dangerous weirdo. Maybe make the girl feel not scared of being alone with you and you might get a date.
That's not really what this video talks about - he starts with a neutral simulation and then starts showing how certain dynamics between men and women affect the rate at which they each get likes or matches. He mentions that he's not accounting for any given app's specific algorithm for which profile to show to who.
Very true, and I agree! I was just expressing my general discontent with the concept of online/mobile dating platforms and services, or perhaps I should say expressing my discontent with the implementation with dating apps. Much of the videos simulation illistrates to me why I don't like them rather plainly, they don't seem to be good at their expressed purpose. I don't like anything that's not good at what it says it's meant to do.
funny how the only time i got a match that went anywhere (though not for very long) was with someone I already knew from work lmao
This video makes me feel a lot better about how poor my luck has been on these apps. It hasn't helped that I match with flaky people who say they value honesty and clear communication and then ghost me instead of saying they changed their mind. Also, getting any matches at all seems to mean that I'm doing better than I thought.
I need to take a new approach to this shit.
These sites should only be used if you move to a new city where you don't know anyone. Relationships? Nah, new friend circle? Eh, sure.