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Trans Megathread for the Week of 7/8 - 7/14 (hexbear.net)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by silent_water@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net
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site's back, time to party niko-dance

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (8 children)

cw weirdo sex shitniko-concern I decided I feel at least a lil weird about the fact that, via the use or nonuse and varied doses of antiandrogens, I can basically decide how much sex drive I have. 25mg cypro totally obliterates any sexual thoughts, 0 is the awooga zone, 12.5mg is like 10% gay sex thoughts.

This is super fucking weird. I guess if you're allosexual you'd just match your drive to however much sex you want to have, or whatever? But for me I kinda wonder what's right, what I want. I don't mind 10% gay sex thoughts I guess? But having the choice or requirement to decide this feels so strange. Like, I guess I could just be horny all the time or whatever (ech) if I took spiro or did monotherapy? Is it normal for allos to just get led around by the nose on account of their sex drive? What actually is sexual desire??? niko-wtf I guess it feels so weird because cis ppl talk about sex drive as an innate attribute you might raise or lower, not a lever to throw for fun.

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[–] Wake@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I spent the weekend literally touching grass. My husband's best friend has a cabin up in Michigan, and this is our 10th year going up there with him and his wife for the holiday. They are two of our closest friends, honestly family at this point. I went foraging for wild raspberries and I got a whole bunch. I'm going to turn them into jam.

I also took the opportunity Saturday night to come out to them since it was just the four of us. I was sooooo anxious but they took the news great! They made me feel so loved and accepted that I cried later that night once the adrenaline wore off.

Sunday we went to a local art fair and that was a lot of fun too. Every time we take our dog to some kind of event like that she ends up with her own fan club. Everybody loves a fluffy butt Corgi.

All in all 10/10 weekend. bridget-vibe trans-heart

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

we're so back

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

Ranking labels by how comfortable I feel applying them to myself

Future woman, very comfortable.
Woman, depends on the moment. Right now it feels weird but sometimes is very comforting.
Lesbian, actually feels really comfortable. I suppose that makes sense, if I'm a woman I'm definitely attracted only to other women.
Trans, What might make less sense is it feels more weird to call myself trans. I know that if I'm a woman, I must be a trans one, but it still feels very weird.
lgbt/queer, And finally, possibly making the least sense, calling myself lgbt or queer is the most weird feeling label on this list.

I'm too terminally online to write an actual good, well formatted post but I feel more comfortable calling myself a women then I do trans, and calling myself lgbt feels even weirder. And that seems very odd to me.

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

We're back! niko-dance

[–] silent_water@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

we back baybee kitsuragi-dance

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

rat-salute

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm tryna cook a post about [weird book you have never once heard of but it has a lot of important-sounding accolades on its cover] but it's not working. I am not being allowed to cook lea-think rare...

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[–] hello_hello@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just read My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness (2016) by Nagata Kabi and it fucking destroyed me denji-just-like-me moments all around.

spoilers for the manga/CW: sex work, depression, eating disorder, lots of venting

  • I do have daydreams about hiring a very hot fem twink to have sex with me but I talk myself out of it every time. Either it's a waste of money (even though money isn't a concern, my parents became landlords after COVID), I'm too ugly to even pay for someone to have sex with me, they'll turn out to be a kidnapper etc.
  • I do struggle with not having any real life friends and I do depend on my parents for a lot of things. My life right now is just doing errands for my parents while trying not to die of the summer heat.
  • My only experience with sex is getting caught by my English teacher while grinding on this guy in the library and some random person I found on grindr while I was underage. So i basically have the sex = bad mindset that I repeat to myself.
  • I too have an eating disorder that's tied to my mood swings. Sometimes I just get uncontrollably mad and raise my voice at people and afterwards im like "wow that was so cisgender male rage im not really trans."

It's incredible how every plot beat of her manga can have a 1 to 1 pairing with my own life. I'm still in university right now so I can still turn it around. Apparently in 2016 she paid around $360 adjusted for todays inflation on a single night with a lesbian sex worker, thats a lotta monies!

It is a good short read but very much introspective angst and heavy af but it is very real to the struggle of chronically lonely queer people who never had any sort of queer childhood growing up but are still gay.

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