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* not really a slur, it's just french but better safe than sorry
i don't know how cool this community is with things like these, on tumblr the slur is pretty much completely reclaimed.

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[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Even on tumblr, most people will tag it so people like me can filter it. I'm not clicking the post, but if it's the word I think it is, then yes -- it elicits an immediate involuntary trauma response in me, so even on tumblr I filter it.

I'm not saying not to use it, but I'm really thankful when people are thoughtful about it. There's a reason it's generally considered a slur. May have something to do with me being older and growing up in a very much not safe place for LGBTQIA+ people, so my experience with it was ... not good. Wish I could move past that, but I have my coping mechanisms like what I described above.

[–] Zelaf@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You sharing this actually made me more thoughtful of my wordings for once. I've often looked past such comments, never ignored them per se but never really delved deeper into why and brushed it off.

Thank you for sharing this and your experience regarding why. I'll bring this with me for the future!

I'm so glad you understood because I was a little bit scared to share.

And honestly, I really hope it does get generally reclaimed so that other people don't need to feel the way that I do when people use it. But I sure appreciate it being tagged!

[–] nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

should i add it in the post's body so you can filter it?

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No thank you. I don't even know how to filter stuff on lemmy. I know my comment is long, but basically I want to say I appreciate the thoughtfulness

[–] nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

oh, no problem! yea i think instance devs should add a way to filter out posts with certain keywords

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I dont think people mind thaat much here, especiall if its not used in a mean way. But yeah u never know.

[–] snekmuffin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago

Nigh time to reclaim the word anyhow 💅

[–] moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

that red headed kid in disco elysium

[–] nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

hm yes Cunt or whatever his name was

[–] moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago

yes exactly

[–] Rayspekt@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I'd be so glad if the Disco Elysium sub would move to the fediverse