Even on tumblr, most people will tag it so people like me can filter it. I'm not clicking the post, but if it's the word I think it is, then yes -- it elicits an immediate involuntary trauma response in me, so even on tumblr I filter it.
I'm not saying not to use it, but I'm really thankful when people are thoughtful about it. There's a reason it's generally considered a slur. May have something to do with me being older and growing up in a very much not safe place for LGBTQIA+ people, so my experience with it was ... not good. Wish I could move past that, but I have my coping mechanisms like what I described above.