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A long time friend passed away yesterday, unexpectedly. He was in sort of poor health the last few years. Bell’s Palsy, was on the list for a liver transplant. He passed from an esophageal varice that burst.

I live in a small town. Small enough that many of my preschool classmates were still in highschool with me 12 years later. My friend Steve was 5 years older than me so i didn’t go to high school with him, but i had classes with his two younger brothers. I was in boyscouts with his youngest brother. Steve is the one who ‘invested in me’ when i was lost and couldnt find my way. Better or worse, he is partly responsible for me becoming who i am today. He was my journeyman when i was coming up. He left service plumbing to become the lead plumbing/mechanical inspector for the local area. He always had time for me, no matter how busy he was. Personal, or work related he always answered when i rang. He would come by jobsites that he knew i was working juat to shoot the shit for a few minutes. He was one of the few people in my life i could comfortably call my friend. I used to score grams of wax for him and his wife, when i was still puffing on the regs. I know that work/career isnt everything but ive lived the plumbing life for so long that i can’t picture anything else. I owe him greatly.

I hadnt seen him in over a month. Life/work/etc was just too busy. We (he, his wife, and I) were supposed to meet up sometime over the last weekend and just shoot the shit. Catch up. Laugh about stupid work shit, and rip a couple dabs. I put it off for some last minute sidework for an acquaintance. I figured we would just do it this coming weekend instead. Now its too fucking late and i regret not seeing my good friend one last time.

Thank you Steve. Rest in peace buddy.

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry for your loss comrade

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

Thank you comrade.

[–] the_itsb@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sounds like you were super close, I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔

I completely understand that feeling of regretting missing that last time to chat and hang with him. My oldest sister died suddenly a few days before I moved home from out of state, and we had barely spoken in weeks because I was busy getting ready to move back.

From everything you've said about your relationship, though, I think he must have absolutely loved and treasured you. It seems like he really understood you as a person, and I bet he was happy to postpone plans to make your life easier.

I hope you feel some peace, too. ❤️

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

Its obviously very fresh, but i dont think ill ever put off plans with those i care about, ever again. The ones i care about deserve my effort to see them, and stay close.

Thank you, btw.

[–] buttwater@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Steve sounds like a real one. May he rest in peace, having made the world a slightly better place.

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

One of the realest i know. He cared. At my age, i dont have many friends. Even less who gave a shit the way he did.

[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. You must be devastated.