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truly disgusting behaviour on behalf of this sites users. utterly disappointing. trash like that compromise the entire purpose of the community. sub-human filth who would rather scold those in difficult situations than extend a helping hand. quintessential liberal behaviour. those who have never truly struggled in life and do not care for those who have, yet put on the mask of allyship as if their intentions are to aid when their intentions are to admonish. these people are not worth the air they breathe. please do not allow the dirty words of these demons to bother you. especially when you're the kind of person who would receive a donation of that scale and still use it to help others. I would like to see any liberals plan for how any lump sum payment could uplift somebody out of homelessness. these liberals are obsessed with fantasies of noble White Men pulling themselves up by their boot straps. they're incapable of seeing reality. they're delusional, holier than thou monsters.
that's how i see it.
to scold someone in a more difficult position than oneself is such a disgusting act. it fills me with rage. you've done nothing wrong. that's the simple truth.
I mean, I fucked up pretty bad. I could’ve gotten a car or something. I thought this would be what turns things around for me. A once in a lifetime occurrence, all fucked up. I was set up for failure before I was even born, but so were a lot of people who know how to responsibly handle $4,000.
To be realistic 4k isn't all that much money and whomever gifted you was obviously well off enough that it wasn't a big deal to them to drop it on a stranger. It certainly wasn't enough to get a good car with the way prices are now on used ones, or so I hear.
not a good car but a car, unless the market is locally fucked in Portland. In Chicago for instance I see several 07-09 Sentras with ~120k for $3k on Facebook Marketplace which would get you from A to B for a couple years. Nicer than my last car, there's probably some $2k shitboxes still
They way people were making it out in the thread OP told us about her getting gifted the money people were saying that money still wouldn't be enough. My point is we can sit here and heap blame and make her feel worse than she already does or be realistic about the situation and try to see a way forward, I think. I still come back to her best bet being set up with some sort of rehab to halfway house pipeline that could involve social services. A lot of hw houses have work programs that shuttle you back and forth and could be a way to make up some savings to get into an apartment. Spitballing ideas ofc but that's what I keep coming back to. I wanted to do something similar to this myself at one point.
yeah I think housing first usually. car as housing was a reasonable idea, I'm not gonna knock the plan too much, but clearly it didn't work. IMO it is actually kind of hard to buy a cheap car that works on a tight timeline. Especially because budget wasn't $4k, it was like $2k. Needed to be enough left over to pay for gas/insurance/repairs/parking tickets until she was able to get a paycheck. Takes a lot of time on the internet, multiple meetups, negotiation, possibility of getting robbed, etc. I think calendar time 2 weeks last time I bought a shitbox, and the clock is ticking at $90+ a day if you're in an SRO hotel or something.
I have no experience with halfway houses and stuff, every institution that theoretically gives people free housing that I've interacted with here has been pretty bad unfortunately
They can be hit or miss from what I've gathered. You can luck out and find a good one or one run by assholes. Obviously you gotta be sober to stay in them though, hence why I recommended rehab first. The way I've always seen it broken down is most people come from rehab or prison to a halfway house. Not sure if they take people otherwise, might be worth looking into.