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Serious: struggling with misogynistic thoughts (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 year ago by sir_this_is_a_wendys@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail...I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men's groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I've noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don't want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

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[–] sir_this_is_a_wendys@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thank you for your advice. My ex learned all this behavior from her mother, who might be an outright psychopath (not using that in a disparaging term, she is seriously ill mentally).

I have read a lot of books about narcissism and covert abuse in recent years. The best I've come across is Was It Even Abuse by Emma Rose.

I don't have a therapist atm, I am looking for one that specializes in narcissistic abuse and gaslighting. I am honestly in the verge of giving up professional therapy completely and using self therapy/workbooks instead.