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Serious: struggling with misogynistic thoughts (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 year ago by sir_this_is_a_wendys@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail...I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men's groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I've noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don't want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You know, just be exposed to women enough to drill it in that women are just people, 99% of which mean you no harm.

Pretty much this. I had a period after a break up where I started to hate women and resent them. Coincides with a time in my life where I was consuming reactionary content too and getting into mgtow/mra stuff. The most important take away I can give is that women are just humans like the rest of us, and most of them are good people.

[–] sir_this_is_a_wendys@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have had good women in my life. I am absolutely not ready for any sort of relationship right now and probably won't be for a couple years at least, but I am going to start attending an art therapy class once a week.

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

but I am going to start attending an art therapy class once a week.

That sounds like a nice step forward.