neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I'm a recovering serial mansplainer. I once mansplained why feminists were right about the patriarchy to a teenage girl that was like 2 years younger than me. I also grew up arguing on Reddit very frequently.
The main thing that helps is to train yourself to first understand where someone else is coming from. In IRL conversations make sure you're hearing what the other person has to say, not just listening until they say something you disagree with then waiting until your turn to own them. Never start a conversation assuming the other person is acting in bad faith (unless there's a good reason to believe that, like they're wearing a Ben Shapiro merch shirt or whatever). Remember that natural conversation is just not capable of convincing someone that their strong beliefs are simply not true; you can either talk with them to gently steer them in a better direction that they'll have to open their minds to, or engage in discourse to appeal to an audience with a superior image which still means speaking with relevant facts and no more vitriol than is appropriate for the situation. Obviously on Hexbear we dunk on libs pretty hard but it only works because we bring a ton of information and theory to back our points up, and we're dunking on people who generally are acting antagonistic with very little substance to back up their bad faith attacks. But you need to know when it makes more sense to take a more Socratic approach of letting the person explain why they're wrong to themselves instead of getting them defensive. No one changes their mind while they're on the defense.