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The rent is too damn high, can't have shit in California
They're gonna bury me with my badge 
Anytime I find myself vibing with someone my brain likes to ping me with "But you don't have your shit together."
thats stupid, no one has their shit together and there's not a checklist of shit you need to check off to be ready for a relationship and/or having sex
also "having your own place" being on that list is american suburban hellscape brained af, having roommates is actually good and efficient (or at least it should be)
There kind of is. There is such a thing as being unhealthy enough that you shouldn't be fishing for that sort of thing.
of course you might be in a state where you might pose a psychological or physical danger to any potential partner. there's a bar you can go below but I don't think there's a bar you need to rise above.