idk if it's because I'm autistically naive or if it's because I'm old and words meant different things back in the day, but I was under the impression that the Q part covered everything that wasn't vanilla cishet, and that's why "Queer" was synonymous with "weird."

so kink just seems like an inherent part of it to me, because I thought Pride was about being out and proud about being Different from the vanilla cishet mainstream

but also I'm just some rural yokel, what do I know

[–] wild_dog@hexbear.net 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

idk about this. Following this logic a cis het dude into feet or BDSM would be queer and I don't think they should count bc they aren't being discriminated against the way a LGBT person is. I do think there's certain kinks/ways cis het people could be considered queer but I think this definition obscures why Pride exists to begin with.

I think part of queerness is not fitting in traditional gender and/or sexuality roles. Like is the libs of Tiktok lady coming after y'all just for existing?

I'm not hating on y'all and you're definitely welcome at Pride imo but it feels weird to say everyone who has a kink is queer when kinks are so normalized that it would basically mean everyone is queer at that point. I also feel like that definition makes things weird for asexual people (who definitely are a part of the community bc they do face similar discrimination and marginalization.)

[–] EelBolshevikism@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think part of queerness is not fitting in traditional gender and/or sexuality roles. Like is the libs of Tiktok lady coming after y'all just for existing?

I agree that it’s weird to consider it a form of queerness, but I think the libs of TikTok lady would definitely go after a lot of people just for having kinks

[–] wild_dog@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

She doesn't though. People in the US openly talk about sex online a lot (even in front of children) but she only goes after queer people and allies saying queer people should be allowed to exist.

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