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I've been doing this for some time now. Even if it's something that I consider important.

I just don't see the value in participating in a discussion that I have seen countless times already where the same points and arguments happen over and over again. One that I know wilI turn ugly. It's exhausting and I've decided to just opt-out.

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[–] saltesc@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Yes. Especially Lemmy. People here love turning a discussion into an argument on shit they don't know much about. Subsequently some of the most brazen and obvious strawmanning, wild out of field assumptions, and gaslighting I've seen online—usually with a lot of not reading full comments or disregarding context or 90% of the comment in general. You can constantly call them out on it and try to direct discourse back onto topic instead, but it's almost always futile. For them, it was only ever a competition of feeling superiority of some kind.

I've never seen anything quite like it online. Reddit was mild in comparison.

[–] Fedegenerate@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 1 year ago

Any comment starting with some varient of "So you..." can almost always be ignored. I think they're framed as summarising an opponents position to lay bare an obvious flaw. But, to me aleast, they just out the commenter as being ignorant or malicious. Ignorant of what the comment they're replying to said, or maliciously trying to misrepresent it.

I think it speaks to a broader problem of online rhetoric where person X tells person Y what person Y thinks and why (and most importantly why they're wrong to think this way) instead of asking them.

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