Sorry you experienced that. I had not heard of that meme before reading that thread you linked. I'll say as an male-presenting person, it definitely doesn't feel good to have people assume that you are inherently dangerous for reasons that are out of your control. That's where the instinct to minimize comes from, I think.

But that's how it is, unfortunately. That's the consequence of living under patriarchy, and if a guy doesn't like it then they should assist in dismantling it rather than trying to dismiss its harms.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

That's where the instinct to minimize comes from, I think.

Goofy-ass, ridiculous instinct. Idk where people in privileged groups get this idea that condescending to or whining at people of marginalised groups is a good idea. I think the absolute bare minimum you can do is listen to those less privileged to you. It's not like the Institution Of Maleness needs defending.

(Good comment btw, I'm just on a roll today)