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Can someone please help me deal with some of my
? This is kind of embarrassing to post so please try not to judge me. I'm trying to do better 
cw for transphobia about masc trans people (I still love you all)
I don't really know how to put it. I suppose when I hear of someone being trans masc I just feel a bit sad? I know I should be happy for them living their best life, and I am, but part of me just feels like its a shame I guess? Just like "destroying" their femininity. I know its wrong to feel this way (its their body, they're happier, etc), but I just do I guess. Like a gut reaction. Am I just doomed to have that emotional reaction and try to respond "using my head"?Spend more time listening to transmasc people, learn about their struggles, their dysphoria triggers etc. This will help a lot to empathize, and it actually expands your own understanding of gender a lot to see how trans people of other genders go about their transitions.
Real! Talk to your trans comrades!
In my experience simply knowing and understanding why transmasc people transition and what they feel dysphoric over and don’t doesn’t really get rid of my envy or confusion, it just urges me to be more empathetic to them. To an extent I think it’s just normal for trans people be envious and confused of each other? I imagine transmasc people have the exact same thoughts about transfemme people all the time. Like, I don’t understand why people like IPA’s but I don’t think they’re less valid for liking them (or that I’m less valid for not liking them!)