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I've mentioned a couple of times recently having some "real life" problems, but I haven't really wanted to talk about it much here while I was still processing everything.
My Dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and does not have much longer to live. My Mum also has a fair few health problems and our current plan is for her to move back to Melbourne and share a house with me so I can provide more assistance. I feel a bit like I'm in the eye of a hurricane at the moment, everything seems perfectly normal right now but I'm constantly on edge waiting for that to change.
It feels like I should be doing something but there's not really anything to do at the moment, so I'm researching and making plans for every likely future possibility I can think of. Which probably means something completely unexpected will happen instead.
I'm really sorry. This sounds like a lot to take on.
With kindness, I disagree. I think you should be spending as much time with your folks as you are comfortable with. Bugger everything else right now.
I have been spending more time with them, but Dad can't do anything now, he can't really speak and is basically just sitting in his armchair with the TV on 24/7. It's not a very pleasant environment unfortunately. I'd love to be able to take Mum out to get away from it for a bit but she doesn't want to leave him alone for any length of time. We've pretty much all said our goodbyes because he could go at any time and now we are all just waiting.
Can you read to him? share some stories of good memories when you were growing up?
I just. I think we should all be so lucky to pass surrounded by love.
Unfortunately we really don't have that sort of relationship. He has never really shared stories or anything with us and in many ways I barely know him. I guess he has taken being part of the "silent generation" to heart.