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Good lord the replies to this are sad. Believe it or not it's a perfectly reasonable expectation to only want to date someone whose core beliefs align with yours (and, y'know, actually respects your rights as an independent human being.)
It's fine to have dating preferences. The issue is when people who are just calling anyone who is conservative leaning terrible. If you don't agree with someone's political ideology, you should just respectfully disagree, not call them a terrible person.
Also, calling people evil for their options is a terribly way to convince them to change, it just makes them get really defensive. If you want to convince someone to change opinion, you need to have a respectful, insightful discussion.
How do you have a respectful or insightful discussion with someone uninterested in being respectful or having insight?
How do you explain the suffering caused by separating children from parents at the border to someone who doesn't see those people as human? To someone who thinks they deserve to suffer for existing in the wrong color of skin? At what point do you call a spade a spade?
If they're uninterested in respectful discussion, then you should just leave them alone.
Would you like to know my opinion on those things?
We should definitely make the legal immigration process easier. But we shouldn't just allow people to immigrate illegally. And you shouldn't be separating families without a good reason, and it shouldn't be for very long. A few hours is okay, but if you need go longer than 24 hours, you should give them chances to see their family.
Your skin color doesn't matter, it should be irrelevant to basically everything. (Also, what was the last law passed that was racist? Because isn't that completely unconstitutional?)
And no one should suffer. But that's a really hard goal to reach, and so we do end up with a lot of compromises.
I'd be happy to have a civil discussion over these subjects. All I ask is we don't call anyone evil, just for being in a particular group.