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Oh... Would have been my wedding anniversary today.... I feel ... Ok. Will always have residual anger-sadness that I wasn't a 'good enough woman' and melancholy that the whole thing left me very never wanting to do it again. But at peace. And as these things go it was amicable and as good as it could be.
Just because things don't work out with a person, doesn't mean that you're not "good enough." I'm glad you're far enough away from that past that you can look back on it as the past, if that makes sense.
I totally agree.
All the making people feel they aren't good enough, that's nothing but nastiness and control.
I still feel angry at my family of origin and ex.
I was engaged for a long time and feel the same on a particular day of the year. I was very much "not good enough", but over the years I've learned that sometimes people want things we simply cannot give them.
So true. And often on both sides. Thanks. Hugs.
Big hugs from me too. Rough. :(
Thanks
Thatβs rough. I hope you can reframe the good enough part. Thatβs something I work on in a slightly different context, and itβs hard. hugs
Yeah. There's some water under the bridge now and we are mates and it's ok. Just jumps up when you least expect it. Hugs back
Oh. Here's some chocolate π« to add to your stash.
Hehee. That makes everything better
so many hugs
Thanks mate.