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Daily Discussion Thread:🫑Wed 27 Mar 2024 (aussie.zone)

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

🌞 Months ago I started working really hard at disarming the trigger of hearing the accent/dialect of my father. 50 uurs later of watching dutch and flemish tv I can listen to what ever I want without any neg feelings ( mortal dread ) arising.

So now I have started watching the movie philosophy of art channel I really wanted to and it's goed.

It's so hard to disarm the ghosts in our heads but it's worth it. 🌞 I could have just thought to myself; I don't like this movie channel, I don't like this guy; that would have been easy. But I knew that was rubbish, I did like it and he was a smart nice guy worth listening to , so I made the effort. I also didn't want my father to succeed. How dare he mess me up like that. It's my life. :)

( I also watched all the movies talked about, most I had already seen ) so I at least had a reference point. 👍

[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's no mean feat. I'm glad you could get past that particular ghost. Hugs

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 2 years ago

Thanks. It feels so good not to be triggered by that anymore. :)

[–] SituationCake@aussie.zone 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Well done! Any tips on what worked well?

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

keep my focus on the end goal, for me it was watching the movie channel. It is important to me.

try to immerse myself in other aspects of the situation than what triggers me

in this case the trigger was the accent and dialect, so while still hearing in the background I concentrated on the story and the visuals

slowly increase my attention to the trigger, I suppose you could call it desensitisation

in the past while overcoming triggers I would allow myself to literally run or stop an activity, but only ONCE, that was the deal I made with myself, thereafter I had to be brave and face my trigger

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yes, some of the hardest work ever but soooo soooo worth it. True courage is being afraid but not letting that stop you. Had to face something like that (different context), and it took a lot of repetition to de-sensitise.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Thanks. And I want to thank and hug everyone again for your support and kind words. I had no idea I would get such a response. 😭

And I want to point out that it can only be done from a place of safety. Being in a safe place is like the first thing my psych said to me on my first visit.

If there is still a dangerous situation focus on escape or harm mitigation.

[–] anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone 4 points 2 years ago

That’s an awesome achievement, and well done you on conquering those ghosts