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Happy Monday y'all.
Yesterday was theatre day with the boyfriend. I was on four hours of sleep but was a good show.
After I gave him the ultimatum about if the relationship continues to be one-sided, I'm leaving, he's stepped up more. He wrote me a card, gave me a single rose, and chocolate. The card included a sentence along the lines of,
"My libido hasn't been controlled as the downstairs is always saying how's it going."
Like WHAT THE FUCK, you could have just said that I turn you on or something WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT
and, "Hope you are doing great and cupid's arrow has come flying your way." HOPE YOU ARE DOING GREAT BECAUSE THE TACIT ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF MY EMOTIONS ISN'T THERE, LIKE WHO THE FUCK HOPES THAT YOU'RE DOING GREAT IN A CARD SUPPOSED TO EXPRESS ROMANTIC LOVE, THAT IS SO DISTANT.
"Get ready for some loving because it's coming your way" like you're so desperate to prove that you love me in the way I want to be loved?
The whole card just sounded like he was so unsure of himself and felt superficial. He could've just stuck with the I love you part and I would've been more convinced by it.
I know I might deserve someone more observant and thoughtful who I don't have to ask to do nice things for me, but it's fucking hard to leave. Every time I think about the prospect of leaving, I get extremely anxious because I don't want to leave but perhaps it's what I need. You can't always get what you want, but sometimes, if you try, you can get what you need.
I think this is the weirdest card I've ever received.
You know him best. The consensus on the sub seems to be dudes just awkward AF and bad at communicating, but it’s really gonna be up to you if you think he’s being malicious with it or just a well meaning idiot.
But, respectfully: if you think things have run their course (and again, only you can answer this) then end it. Drawing things out just makes it take longer to heal. And being alone is a lot better than being in a bad relationship.