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Even if you are too lazy to check, can’t they/them be used when in doubt and cause much less grief?
If I’m wrong here, I’m sorry. I don’t mean any offense, I just assume not gendering was a safe move when you are unsure.
The incident in question occurred when someone (a programming.dev admin, specifically), whose client hides the pronouns, used 'they' to refer to a user with she/her pronouns.
Aaaah okay, then my apologies for the ignorant take. Wasn’t aware of the full scope of the incident.
I run into the same thing because of the app I use to connect to Hexbear on mobile, but I would accept being corrected and move on using the preferred pronouns. It’s not that hard.
this is 100% fine and there'd be no hard feelings if that had happened, but instead the admin in question whipped out the ol' "getting offended is a bad look!!" card instead
(full disclosure, it was me, ~~dio~~)