The incident in question occurred when someone (a programming.dev admin, specifically), whose client hides the pronouns, used 'they' to refer to a user with she/her pronouns.

[–] nothx@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Aaaah okay, then my apologies for the ignorant take. Wasn’t aware of the full scope of the incident.

I run into the same thing because of the app I use to connect to Hexbear on mobile, but I would accept being corrected and move on using the preferred pronouns. It’s not that hard.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 11 points 2 years ago

accept being corrected and move on using the preferred pronouns. It’s not that hard.

this is 100% fine and there'd be no hard feelings if that had happened, but instead the admin in question whipped out the ol' "getting offended is a bad look!!" card instead

(full disclosure, it was me, ~~dio~~)