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[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 30 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I actually go into panic mode every time I see somebody that looks queer here and I have to use their pronoun in an upcoming sentence lmao

[–] invalidusernamelol@hexbear.net 33 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

Just stick with gender neutral until either they correct you or someone who knows them drops the correct ones for you.

No one will complain about they/them for a bit until you're told.

Or just constantly switch between all of them in each sentence and really throw everyone off. Cover all your bases

[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 31 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

No one will complain about they/them for a bit

Counterpoint: Insecure cis men

Also I don't want to make trans people feel bad for knowing I've obviously clocked them as trans but they don't pass/look androgynous when they may not want to so I have to use they

But yea, I always just end up using they and hope nobody gets hurt

[–] invalidusernamelol@hexbear.net 14 points 2 years ago (1 children)

There are ways to do it without being overt, like saying "they're pretty cool" or "they seem nice" or whatever. It's easier when taking to someone else though, but using pronouns is always something you do with other people anyways.

Counterpoint: Insecure cis men

Counter-Counterpoint: who cares?

[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)

dudes like fighting and americans like shooting

[–] invalidusernamelol@hexbear.net 4 points 2 years ago

I get that, but you can always walk that back easier there and not feel like you're actually hurting someone. Plus anyone who is hyper masculine and cis, will usually be obvious enough that you don't have to use non-binary pronouns.

They are one of the most aggressively gender presenting groups around.

[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Yeah, I agree with what he said. She's got a really good point about switching it up; they really seem to know what * shit, I've run out of pronouns * ...

Gotta go!