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Thoughts on telling a co-worker you find them attractive? (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Baggage_Bot@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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I'm into a co-worker. Nothing indicates he's interested or even into guys, but I'm bad at reading social cues. He knows I'm not straight and we talk regularly at work.

It feels like it's obvious I like him, but again, social cues. I was thinking about saying something direct and just being honest, but I don't want to stress him out. I don't expect him to like me back, but that would be great.

I guess I'm asking how uncool is it to communicate that to someone at work?

Edit - I just wanted to say thanks and I hear what a lot of you are saying. I was under the assumption that being around someone you like and not telling them you like them is dishonest and unfair. It turns out I need to reevaluate some things about myself.

I need to be careful and I don't want to risk making work worse for me/alienate another person who's trying to work in peace.

I'm just glad I got to talk about the feeling somewhere shit once. Thanks again!

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[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Don't date coworkers and if you do, don't initiate at work. There is too much potential to go badly. You're both there to put in hours to get by - if an advance is unwelcome, it can make things super awkward. Or, it could be worse.

I need to be careful and I don't want to risk making work worse for me/alienate another person who's trying to work in peace.

This. Wow. You absolutely get it. This is something that usually takes people a long time to learn in their youth - and some never do. You have correctly understood and succinctly communicated the problem at hand. Keep rockin.