thinking about a friend from high school who i said a lot of eggy shit to and they said a lot back at me. wonder how they're doing?
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Honestly the whole "prime directive" thing kinda pisses me off. I wish someone had leveled with me when I started wondering "Why do I always crush on lesbians? Why do lesbians in media make me feel funny? Why do I feel so indignant when I'm shut out of women's spaces because I'm a guy?" in college. I had like one person I told and they were like "eh that kinda sounds transy" and it was left at that.
Also imagine that concept being used in the context of any other condition: "Damn that stuff they're complaining about sounds exactly like my sleep apnea symptoms. Ah well, not my place! They can suffer for a few more years until they figure it out."
I agree, you don't wanna railroad people into a specific identity, but gender is inextricably social. This "prime directive" shit treats gender like some atomized, wholly internal, thing. It's based on this idea that mentioning transness at all might corrupt some pure, internal process of gender discovery.
And frankly, that's some fucking lib shit. Instead of this "prime directive" nonsense, you can just present the option to people, and be a supportive friend. That's millions of times more helpful then this coy, anxious, silence.