Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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Anecdotally, the majority of fathers really are inept. I can't believe the amount of guys who play into the stereotype. Pride in not ever having changed a diaper, complaining about having to babysit their own kids, generally buffoonery when trying to get me to relate to their shit takes on fatherhood. Even some of my friends aren't truly thinking about their role as both parent and partner.
That said, when I'm out "alone" with one or both of my children and this scenario plays out, it really gets to me. I may not know or remember everything at all times when it comes to good parenting but I sure as fuck know that if I put socks on my son when he was a baby he'd flip a fucking table. The boy doesn't want socks, ma'am. And dont take my picture.
It only gets to me for a short time because I feel like I'm receiving what my partner gets every damn day about everything else. Getting talked down to based on perceived gender biases