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"So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others though, you will be promptly removed.

I do not know the demographic data of lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here. Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this. But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.

Thoughts?"

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[–] milistanaccount09@hexbear.net 27 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

this is something ive commented about but it is incredibly trivial to check someone's pronouns. even if they aren't in the name just open their profile to see if it's in the profile blurb, its incredibly fucking simple and if someone misgenders someone on lemmy it is completely their fucking fault. I know I got into a bit of an argument about this recently and it was frustrating how many users seemed to not fret too much about it ('as long as im using they it's completely okay right?' explosion) I do kinda wish i had a proper Women forum here to post in (though I probably wouldnt be interested in modding anything lmao). I do definetly want the ability to bitch about hating men without feeling like I'm stepping on anyone's toes.

Frankly I've been a biit afraid to go full tilt on transmisogyny posting because I expect to get a serious amount of pushback which i mean is pretty visible-disgust but like that kind of is how it is yknow

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

ive bitched about men a lot on here, i dont think i got any weird responses. though i do distinctly recall giving some guy on here some death threats when i was funked up on my ptsd and he poked me the wrong way 🤔 i dont really recall how that was resolved blob-no-thoughts

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 16 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] kristina@hexbear.net 20 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

they probably did, i really dont remember lmao. im bimbofied

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 20 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

one of my favorite things about being hopped up on estradiol is i don’t remember details about haters or losers

trans-heart

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago (1 children)

maybe i just murdered him? idk shrug-outta-hecks

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago

girl dinner

:wholesome:

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)

i have never clicked on anyone's profile and i'm not going to start now.

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago

we have pronoun tags for a reason yah