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In my personal experience this happens when you start taking responsibility on.
Society at large depends on members ensuring certain things, even at their own peril, without concepts of fairness and such, so others don't have to worry about negative circumstance affecting them.
The most simple form of that is parenthood and similar concepts. You take responsibility for other live because at first they can't do that themselves. No matter if you are hungry or cold or tired, you will always provide for this life at any cost.
Responsibility can take many forms. Start a business, take responsibility for your employees stable paycheck. Choose a job that society needs done like nursing or such.
In theory every full member of society takes on a little responsibility more or less to their ability which results in a stable social construct.
So I would say: taking on responsibility makes you an adult. I have heard that phrased often as "realizing life is not fair", which usually comes with taking on responsibility for others and yourself.
There are plenty of faux metrics like age. You can find plenty of old people unable to take on basic responsibility. There is plenty of experienced or wealthy or educated people that can't be trusted with anything but maybe looking out for their own interests.
Taking on responsibility has to happen responsibly, nothing worse than taking on too much and drowning while exposing others to negative consequence from that. So taking responsibility for your own life entails realizing that you put your own oxygen mask on first and then start helping others if you have the choice.