Sooooooo super awkward questions warming
I just started using a feminine chastity cage to keep the "Lady bits" out from between my legs and to diminish the bulge. I got it on comfortably last night for the first time, I was struggling to not be erect the first couple of times, and then again this morning. So the curiosity kink is gone which is great. So I love the look and feel and the not having stuff getting in the way down there, but I've run into two issues that I was wondering if anyone else has had
First off, I'm precumming constantly. Like i was already wearing a low flow pad in my panties for that reason, but that was getting better. So I assume with time I'll get used to it and it will stop?
B: my skin is like eating the cage. I have one of the really small ones that just smashes the head of my penis as far back as it will go. It's more comfortable than it sounds. But the extra skin that leaves behind slowly creeps over the front of my cage. Like I went to put my pad in and I could barely see the pink and there was just a pool of precum in there. Obvi cleaned it up and pulled the skin back but is this a bad thing? Am I going to hurt myself? It's not uncomfortable, outside of the getting used to it part.
Sorry, didn't know who to ask since the feminine chastity group appears dead, and honestly they're just thirsty for pics and I'm not down for that.
Thanks for the continued love and support.
♡♡♡Nissa♡♡♡
Edit: Spelling (I suck at spelling, and my secretary/wife is not currently reading over my shoulder)
I have been using KT tape to keep the girls tucked away and keep everything smooth. Whenever I do get an incident, the tape keeps everything from shifting too much, but if I'm out walking around and it happens I will have to stop or the movement could push things in a direction I don't want to go....
I have looked into different cages but I really like having a super smooth panty line and none of the cages seem like they'll work with my anatomy and give me the smooth feeling I want.
TMI warning:
I have a "grower" so she's usually around 3-5cm depending on temperature (more like 1-2 if it's early in the swimming season and I'm in the pool) and when things happen she gets to about 10-13cm. The twins tuck up or fall down depending on temperature. Also since I'm a little hefty (170cm/100kg) things are already a little crowded.
So because of the way I am shaped, it either would fall off, the fat around it would make it not sit right, or it just wouldn't give me the ability to wear my leggings.
I would LOVE to find one that makes me flat enough to wear my leggings and still stay on.
Also I'm glad you have a supportive partner in this aspect, my own partner thinks that's pushing too far into "it's a fetish" territory and I can't seem to make her understand what looking down and seeing something I feel shouldn't be there does to me. Yes, to some chastity might be a fetish, but for me it's a means to control my own flesh just a little better. They know I prefer to be smooth, but they don't seem to connect how visibly having a bulge makes me uncomfortable. The tape is probably their line for now, but it takes awhile go put on and make sure it's comfortable. This week is the first week I've been able to wear it all day while walking and sitting.
I have seen some people put a small cotton makeup pad looking thing in the head of their cage, as a way to make it more comfortable to wear. Maybe that might help, but it might also make things worse for you with the extra rubbing.
I'm having a hard time working out where the "puddle" you mentioned would be, but perhaps wearing a pair of panties the next size down would help?
Idk dear I'm sorry I can't be of more help 🙁
I hate having to tip-toe around chaser spaces especially when I'm still new to trying to be part of communities and still unsure where they all are, and sadly any kind of talk like this is bound to draw them in.
I'm glad you're finding something that works well for you though! You go girl! 😘
(ps where did you get your cage?)
And please please please feel free not to answer:
A simple yes or no will do if you aren't comfortable talking about it, ut are you at all similar to myself down there, based on my above TMI spoiler? I just would like to hear from someone similar in type/size to me when dealing with such things
for awhile I've been lamenting that nobody has gone through the trouble of making a database for trans women to input clothing sizes they find comfortable and their measurements. I would love to be able to find clothing without having to trial and error everything and a 5ft9 220lb trans woman isn't exactly common around these parts...
I really want to start making resources here. It seems there not alot unfortunately, especially none gather all in one place. I might be making a google drive and a few docs and spreadsheets in my near future. I can already see it being my next hyperfocus.
Goodbye FO4 modding, hello trans resource guides! I do need something new to burn myself out on ❤️
Well certainly keep us updated! I don't know how I could help, but by all means let me know, this would be helpful for a lot of people!