Sooooooo super awkward questions warming
I just started using a feminine chastity cage to keep the "Lady bits" out from between my legs and to diminish the bulge. I got it on comfortably last night for the first time, I was struggling to not be erect the first couple of times, and then again this morning. So the curiosity kink is gone which is great. So I love the look and feel and the not having stuff getting in the way down there, but I've run into two issues that I was wondering if anyone else has had
First off, I'm precumming constantly. Like i was already wearing a low flow pad in my panties for that reason, but that was getting better. So I assume with time I'll get used to it and it will stop?
B: my skin is like eating the cage. I have one of the really small ones that just smashes the head of my penis as far back as it will go. It's more comfortable than it sounds. But the extra skin that leaves behind slowly creeps over the front of my cage. Like I went to put my pad in and I could barely see the pink and there was just a pool of precum in there. Obvi cleaned it up and pulled the skin back but is this a bad thing? Am I going to hurt myself? It's not uncomfortable, outside of the getting used to it part.
Sorry, didn't know who to ask since the feminine chastity group appears dead, and honestly they're just thirsty for pics and I'm not down for that.
Thanks for the continued love and support.
♡♡♡Nissa♡♡♡
Edit: Spelling (I suck at spelling, and my secretary/wife is not currently reading over my shoulder)
I have been using KT tape to keep the girls tucked away and keep everything smooth. Whenever I do get an incident, the tape keeps everything from shifting too much, but if I'm out walking around and it happens I will have to stop or the movement could push things in a direction I don't want to go....
I have looked into different cages but I really like having a super smooth panty line and none of the cages seem like they'll work with my anatomy and give me the smooth feeling I want.
TMI warning:
I have a "grower" so she's usually around 3-5cm depending on temperature (more like 1-2 if it's early in the swimming season and I'm in the pool) and when things happen she gets to about 10-13cm. The twins tuck up or fall down depending on temperature. Also since I'm a little hefty (170cm/100kg) things are already a little crowded.
So because of the way I am shaped, it either would fall off, the fat around it would make it not sit right, or it just wouldn't give me the ability to wear my leggings.
I would LOVE to find one that makes me flat enough to wear my leggings and still stay on.
Also I'm glad you have a supportive partner in this aspect, my own partner thinks that's pushing too far into "it's a fetish" territory and I can't seem to make her understand what looking down and seeing something I feel shouldn't be there does to me. Yes, to some chastity might be a fetish, but for me it's a means to control my own flesh just a little better. They know I prefer to be smooth, but they don't seem to connect how visibly having a bulge makes me uncomfortable. The tape is probably their line for now, but it takes awhile go put on and make sure it's comfortable. This week is the first week I've been able to wear it all day while walking and sitting.
I have seen some people put a small cotton makeup pad looking thing in the head of their cage, as a way to make it more comfortable to wear. Maybe that might help, but it might also make things worse for you with the extra rubbing.
I'm having a hard time working out where the "puddle" you mentioned would be, but perhaps wearing a pair of panties the next size down would help?
Idk dear I'm sorry I can't be of more help 🙁
I hate having to tip-toe around chaser spaces especially when I'm still new to trying to be part of communities and still unsure where they all are, and sadly any kind of talk like this is bound to draw them in.
I'm glad you're finding something that works well for you though! You go girl! 😘
(ps where did you get your cage?)
And please please please feel free not to answer:
A simple yes or no will do if you aren't comfortable talking about it, ut are you at all similar to myself down there, based on my above TMI spoiler? I just would like to hear from someone similar in type/size to me when dealing with such things
for awhile I've been lamenting that nobody has gone through the trouble of making a database for trans women to input clothing sizes they find comfortable and their measurements. I would love to be able to find clothing without having to trial and error everything and a 5ft9 220lb trans woman isn't exactly common around these parts...
I really want to start making resources here. It seems there not alot unfortunately, especially none gather all in one place. I might be making a google drive and a few docs and spreadsheets in my near future. I can already see it being my next hyperfocus.
Goodbye FO4 modding, hello trans resource guides! I do need something new to burn myself out on ❤️
Please consider distancing from google for trans content 😅
I mean ideally sure, but im at a loss. Any suggestions for a service that would let me host potentially several files, would allow collaborative edits from the community and is a service that most will already have? Because other than google i dont really have any ideas
Edit: reading my own comment i sound like an asshole. I swear im not being sarcastic or anything else with this comment. Im genuinely wondering and im bad with words sometimes. Sorry if i come off as such
Despite being a more recent adopter of proton for mail myself, they also have essentially a replacement suite for Google, there’s a proton drive. Admittedly, I don’t have experience with it as I’ve not for collaboration and have been migrating more and more away from clouds.
Well certainly keep us updated! I don't know how I could help, but by all means let me know, this would be helpful for a lot of people!
I'm sorry your partner isn't super on board, I consider myself super lucky. She's definitely confused but wants me to be me, happy and free. I really try and explain everything to her and I know its alot but she's doing her best. This is what I have:
https://lockthecock.com/products/pink-plastic-cock-cage-1
Also a chastity belt thay helps hold it high and tight really helps.
I'm not quite your size. 6'1" 185lbs but definitely more of a grower for sure. Going from like 2" to 6 or 7"? I don't really measure it. It would be awesome to have a data base like that. I got a special body tape measure that's been helping figure out my sizes but as all women lament there are vast inconsistencies in sizing.
I hope that helps, thanks for you input!
My partner (newly discovered NB and fem-presenting ) IS super supportive, they've been helping me with outfits and things. It's just this one spot (and my voice, but I totally understand why they don't want me to use a different voice around them) that seems to be a bit of a blurry area of understanding.
I have tried sending them a few articles (like the gender dysphoria am I trans article) to help better explain why I "wasn't like this before" although they've never said anything like that my own self-doubt wants to explain to her why I was supposedly a man for the last 6 years we've known each other. (we've broached the topic before but they were more conservative when we first met and got super awkward so I didn't bring it up again until long after I dragged them to the left and we started hanging out with the LGBT group in town)
Lmao I haven't measured since high school honestly I'm just guessing, but if your guess is as good as mine then I see no reason beyond my extra fat it shouldn't work...
Maybe we could try to get mods to start a pinned post or something? No need for names or usernames to be attached to anything, just a listing of measurements and clothes that fit.
I used to work retail at a sporting goods store and holy shit the variation within brands is insane. Take footwear, specifically Nike. Last I knew, they had 3 different factories for making shoes. You would think they would send out standardized sising forms so all 3 produce the exact same size. Based on conversations with company personnel,, each factory was responsible for its own forms. And they were a few mm off for each different one. A few millimeters makes a big difference when you're layering things up and squeezing a foot into it. A 6mm offset is enough to trip people on stairs. And based on videos I've seen of a lot of clothing manufacturers, they cut so much fabric at once the size flares outward at the bottom of the stack, and will create different sizing. We had a store brand that was fully a size off from underarmor. And that was men's clothes. Women's were basically a gamble if you didn't use the fitting room before you leave.
Thanks for the info! Have a fantastic day 😊